Misery likes company: how negative thinking spreads

In this episode of The Men We Are, we explore the hidden influence of self-talk, internal dialogue, and the language men use every day, both online and in their own minds. From doomscrolling social media and internet negativity to the subtle impact of jokes, labels, and repeated thoughts, we unpack how words can quietly shape confidence, discipline, emotional resilience, and identity. We explore concepts from psychology, cognitive behavioural theory, Buddhism, locus of control, and modern online culture to examine how repeated language patterns can reinforce either growth or limitation. Through personal reflection, setbacks, and real-life examples from aviation, relationships, and self-development, this episode looks at how deliberate communication can help create greater peace, self-awareness, and emotional strength in a chaotic modern world.