MMTMM Episode 18- The Right Kind Of Legacy

One father was asked, on a phone call, to say a single good thing about his son. He said there wasn't one — and hung up. Kevin Marzi watched that sentence break a kid for life.This week, Kevin sits down with a hard truth his 22-year-old son handed him over cigars on the back porch: most of his friends don't have a good relationship with their dads. Sometimes it would only take one sentence — "I'm so proud of who you've become" — to change everything, and it's never said.Drawing on years working in a psychiatric lockdown facility, as a football coach, and in youth ministry, Kevin lays out three ways fathers unknowingly ruin their sons (and daughters): molding them into your own identity, making your love conditional on their performance, and ruling with a hypocritical double standard. Then he flips it — three things every father can do starting today to raise a secure, authentic, masculine man: give him a biblical identity, tell him — out loud — that he is loved and that you only want good for him, and give him the healthy fear of disappointing you that only comes from real boundaries.This isn't about being a perfect dad. It's about knowing you hold your kids' legacy in your hands, and it's never too late to start stewarding it well.WHAT WE COVER:0:00 The conversation with his son that started it all2:36 The one sentence that could transform a struggling kid's life3:36 A story from Kevin's time in a psychiatric lockdown facility4:45 "There is not a single good thing I can say about that kid."7:45 Three ways to ruin your son (or daughter)8:06 #1 — Molding them into your own identity11:04 #2 — Making your love conditional on performance13:17 #3 — Do as I say, not as I do14:03 Three ways to raise a secure, authentic, masculine man14:26 #1 — A biblical identity: who they are in Christ15:04 #2 — Telling them, out loud, that they are loved17:07 #3 — A healthy fear of consequences and of disappointing you18:25 Why boundaries make kids feel safe (the schoolyard fence study)21:16 Cornerstone Men's Event — September 25 with Pastor Chris BrownUPCOMING EVENT — TAKING GROUND:Pastor Chris Brown (North Coast Church, San Diego) live at Cornerstone Church in Cheshire, CT.Friday, September 25 · 5:30 PM · The state's largest taco truck on siteTickets at cornerstonechshire.com or pay at the door.Kevin will be emceeing — come find him and let him know you're a fan of the podcast.If this episode hit you, share it with a dad who needs to hear that it's not too late to change the legacy he's leaving.Subscribe · Rate · Review — it's the #1 way to help another man find this show.CONNECT:Instagram | TikTok | Facebook: @ManlyMansTourWebsite: ManlyMansTour.com