You talked a little bit about that big 80 years old and looking back on your life. I'm going to just play a little game with you. So imagine that. What deal with the week was Tuesday, Tuesday, Tuesday, Friday, you find out that Friday's your last day on earth.
My question is, and really put yourself there, right? So Friday's your last dinner. All the fights coming up, AJ, Fieros, all falls away. What do you immediately regret?
That's actually something that I've thought about quite a lot. And the reason was is about four months ago, my granddad passed away. It was 93, great life. And when I went to see him in his last couple of days, you know, and he obviously didn't look great.
He looked at me and I thought, wow, life's crazy. And I said, everything that you've done in your life. And now you're lying here about to leave. So when you get experiences like that, just you have to be reminded sometimes that this is a game.
Life is a game. We're only on borrowed time, right? And you can never take yourself too seriously. I think that's one thing I do well is I love to have a laugh and I don't take myself too seriously.
In answer to your question, since that moment, I've been thinking a lot about if I went now, you know, if I went now, do you look back and say, I couldn't have done anymore? I had a great time. And I think the answer is yes. And we can all do better.
But my dad is an inspiration, that respect. Because he's the kind of person that couldn't have squeezed one more drop out of his life. Right? So I'm quite envious of that.
He's 73. And who knows that? He's going to last. But I do feel like it's very important that when you get to whatever stage when God says that's enough for you that you were able to look back and say, I couldn't have done anymore.
And that scares me a little bit. I don't want to know exactly what, when you think about more, you're saying I could have done more, you find out that this Friday's your last day, what are the things where you think, do you know what? Because I think that the that moment, like the death bed moment puts everything in perspective. It does.
But I think in that moment, your emotions are very different to when you're well and fit and on the hustle and just, you know, so you don't get a chance to reflect on that kind of moment until you're there. And the obvious reflection at that point is I wish I would have spent more time with my family. You know, I wish I would have been less focused, probably on work. But I'm not a believer in the thoughts then are not the thoughts now.
And you have to act on the moment. You can't live your life saying, well, blind me when I'm on my death bed, you might look back in because I don't think you can plan like that. You have to do what's in your heart. You have to do what feels right.
And what feels right for me right now is this. What might feel right then is, you know what? Should have probably missed a few trips really and just done the school run a little bit more. And I know that, you know, you have to, you really have to understand where you are in life.
This is great for your mental health as well, your sanity. You've got to be honest with yourself and you've got to understand the situation. I know exactly where I'm at, what I'm thinking, what I'm doing, the sacrifice I'm making, what I could do better at, what I'd, you know, but I'm okay with it. You know, you can't get the perfect balance.
But as long as you understand what is going on and you're not deluded, you're not stubborn. I know, I know, I know, I know I need to do more at home. I know I need to do more school runs. I know I need to be less short with the wife sometimes.
But can you, there's a couple of points here that I think are super interesting. So that deathbed moment, what I think it's doing, and I've never been there, you've not been there, what I think it's doing is it's telling you what actually mattered because to some degree, I think that it's like with that hindsight, you can say, fuck that person criticizing my hair or my car or this, none of that fucking ever mattered. All of that was trivial. All the things that matter were, as you say, like my niece or my, you know, so I think that's what that moment is.
That comes over time. How old are you now? 27. 27.
You're a baby. Yeah, right. You know, I mean, it's been working out for 35 years just to stay fat. You know, I could not give a moneys now at your age.
Oh, wait, I was, you know, I might have been Jack the latter. I might have been turning out that deep down. You know, I'd only take one of the boys to say, you know, tell you what, he'd be putting a bit of timber there. Well, look, you're finally scraping back.
What would you mean? What would you mean? Now? Okay.
Yeah, mate, I know this is the time of the times, isn't it? So being comfortable with yourself is the best feeling in life. You know, it's the best feeling in life. And I think when I was growing up, but score wasn't subconsciously, I think I'd have a massive chip on my shoulder.
So I was a bit of a bit of a knob to be, to be quite honest. But when you get comfortable with yourself, it's a beautiful thing in life, really is, you know, when you wake up in the morning and you've always got to try it for me and look good and feel good and be the best version of yourself you can be. But you do get to a stage and that's actually when you become really powerful and effective. You know, it's the same kind of thing.
You know, when you're young and you're courting or you're looking for a young lady to show you some interest, you know, when you try really hard and you sort of on edge and you're a bit hot, don't really like my hair or, you know, you know, the ones that walk into the bar and just go, you know, I know, I'm not the best, but you know, they're the ones that everybody gravitates to. Anyone with a smile on their face is always creates much more energy and flow and the people that don't. And that's about being comfortable in yourself. So I think that it's very difficult, with everything you've achieved at your age, to just know where you're going or what you're doing.
I'm done. Do you know what I mean? I'm married. I've got two kids.
I've got biz. I'm struggling to balance everything. You know, but I'm here, you know, I'm not going to roll back the years and do this and do that. And I know exactly what I'm doing.
I know exactly where I'm at. I know exactly what I'm focusing on. And that life starts to become a lot easier than at your age. You know, I went to work, I left college after my levels.
I went to work for five years in sports management companies and event management companies. I was a sports agent on a PGA tour in America. I had no idea where I was going. I mean, I just wanted to be successful.
I wanted to earn money, you know, but the mindset of changing mindset over the years is unbelievable. I always say to people, what matters to you now, you will look back on when you get to my age and go comfortably, but even you should worry about stuff like that. And that's important because I feel like people that are very successful, you know, you did it at a very young age. It's very impressive because I think it takes time.
Now, when I did the Cambridge talk the other day, you know, you're sitting down with these young and I mean, I'm street smart and I can sell these people. I'm jealous of buffens. I used to take the Mickey out of the office. I'm jealous of buffens now.
I find intellectual people fascinating. I love talking to them and just trying to learn and absorb. And I'm sitting in this room of people and they're listening to me and I'm thinking, you know, firstly, you must be listening to me thinking, this is easy. What is your car?
Use car dealer or something like that. And then, but I'm talking around, I'm saying to you, what do you want to do? You know, what is success to you? They've not got clothes.
It's not because they're Oxford and they're deluded. It's because that's just very difficult that age to understand. I don't believe anyone at faulty looks back at what they were thinking at 20 and said, yeah, I had this plan on it.