More Than a Plus: Ace, Aro, and the Spectrum of Attraction

In this episode, we unzip asexual (ace) and aromantic (aro) orientations and explore the identities that are part of the “plus” in LGBTQIA+. We talk about what these terms mean, why they matter, and how understanding them helps create space for the many different ways people experience attraction and connection.What’s the difference between sexual attraction and romantic attraction? Why aren’t orientation and libido the same thing? And what about some of the most common myths the aro/ace communities encounter—like the idea that aro/ace people don’t have relationships, don’t have sex, or are somehow “broken”?As part of this conversation, we also explore the fluidity of identity and the pressure social expectations can place on people to fit a particular path. Everyone gets to decide how they describe their own experiences, and no one owes the world a label before they’re ready—or at all.Whether you’re hearing these terms for the first time, supporting someone you care about, or simply curious to learn more, this episode is an invitation to approach the conversation with openness, respect, and a little less assumption.Our conversation is a reminder that there isn't one "right" way to experience attraction, relationships, or intimacy—and that understanding starts with making room for the full spectrum of human experience.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question