Mother of young children resentful that husbands work schedule does not allow her to work outside home

Hi Sara, please help me. I'm a mother of 2 children who are 3 and 4 years old and a stay home mom. My 4 year old goes to school from 9am to noon and my 3 year old is at home all day. I want to get a job but I have to consider my husbands work schedule - from 4pm to 2am (or even until 6am if they're really busy). Everytime we fight this becomes the issue, following the money issue. I also have a jealousy problem and my husband did something stupid that he thought it would help me but it just made me crazy. If you could give me advice I would really appreciate it.