Moving the Goalpost

What does happiness actually look like—and why does it seem like the definition keeps changing? In this episode of Trying to Figure This Out, I explore our tendency to attach happiness to what comes next: the next accomplishment, the next opportunity, the next version of ourselves. The goalpost moves, and before we know it, we're already chasing something else. I also take a closer look at what genuinely makes me happy—freedom, time, good conversations, new experiences, and having nowhere I have to be—and what it means to actually make room for those things. Choosing happiness isn't about pretending everything is good or giving up on ambition. I'm going to keep moving the goalpost. I just don't want happiness to have to move with it.