My #1 coping mechanism for psychological abuse at work

When any type of environment or relationship doesn't align with our values, we're left to make a choice: change the situation or change how we respond. And we know we can't change situations or other people. Not only does it not work, but it also wastes our energy. Focus on others means less time to get in touch with ourselves. So if we can't change the situation or other people, what do we do? In the short-term, we detach. We make their beliefs about us mean nothing if we don't agree. We give them the space to own their problems, doing only what we can before we accept the outcome. We give ourselves the ok to enjoy life in spite of unsolved problems. And when we no longer internalize others' toxic behaviors and not react, we stop giving them the control THEY seek. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email [email protected]. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Facebook: @HierarchyPodcast Twitter: @ScrewHierarchy