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In this portion of the conversation, Maurice Harker, Director of Life Changing Services, addresses a question about sharing pain and trauma with a spouse who might not be receptive. Maurice acknowledges the difficulty of this situation and offers guidance on how to approach it. Maurice emphasizes the importance of safety and advises individuals to ensure their own safety before sharing their feelings with a spouse who might be psychologically conditioned to respond in a hurtful manner. He suggests that if the spouse's reactions have the potential to be psychologically abusive, it might be wise to create physical and emotional distance for safety. Maurice also discusses the concept of creative solutions, highlighting the historical examples of pioneer women who had to find innovative ways to ensure their safety. The emphasis is on finding a safe space where the individual can express their feelings without fear of emotional harm. Furthermore, Maurice suggests that true intimacy and the role of a husband involve more than just a legal or symbolic commitment. He suggests that a true husband should have the psychological fortitude to engage in open and supportive conversations, listening to the thoughts and feelings of their partner without judgment or defensiveness. The conversation ultimately underscores the importance of personal safety and self-care in situations where communication may be challenging due to a spouse's lack of receptiveness or emotional capacity. Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/betrayal-trauma-101/ Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRmS2LZa3n0 Check out WORTH: https://healingwithworth.org/