My Dad Planned to Kill Us

Victoria grew up watching her father abuse her mother, never knowing what would happen behind closed doors. In this episode, she shares what it was like growing up in a home shaped by domestic violence, addiction, and fear, and how those experiences continued to impact her long after her father was arrested. She opens up about the night everything changed, the grief of losing multiple family members while trying to rebuild her life, the complicated relationship she has with her father today, and how she's worked to break generational cycles of abuse. Victoria's story is one of resilience, healing, and choosing a different future despite the trauma she endured. Topics Discussed: → Growing Up in a Home Affected by Domestic Violence → Living With the Effects of Childhood Trauma → Escaping Abuse and Rebuilding a Life → Grief, Loss, and Healing Through Family Tragedy → Breaking Generational Cycles of Abuse and Addiction → Navigating a Complex Relationship With an Abusive Parent → Finding Healing by Sharing Her Story Sponsored By: → Cozy Earth | Stay comfortable all summer long with Cozy Earth’s Bamboo Sheet Set, Everywhere Pant, and Everyday Polo. On This Episode We Cover: → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:01:31 - What was her childhood like growing up in a Mexican household? → 00:07:10 - When did she first realize something was wrong at home? → 00:12:49 - What was it like growing up with domestic violence? → 00:18:03 - Why did her mom stay with her father for so long? → 00:24:18 - Why did she feel safest with her family in Mexico? → 00:31:12 - How did her family finally escape the abuse? → 00:37:58 - What happened after her father was arrested? → 00:43:55 - How did her family begin rebuilding their lives? → 00:47:07 - How did losing her grandfather change her quinceañera? → 00:48:34 - How did her mom turn a quinceañera into buying their first home? → 00:50:12 - How did growing up with abuse affect her relationships? → 00:54:05 - How did losing her aunt and cousin change her outlook on life? → 00:57:14 - Why didn't she want her father at her graduation? → 01:00:45 - What did a detective tell her that changed everything? → 01:05:32 - How did she begin healing from years of trauma? → 01:09:48 - How did healthy relationships change her perspective? → 01:14:18 - How did alcohol become a coping mechanism? → 01:18:42 - What helped her finally begin letting go of the past? → 01:24:09 - Why did she decide to reconnect with her father? → 01:31:56 - How did she learn to forgive without forgetting? → 01:38:27 - What did she discover after searching her father's room? → 01:46:35 - Why was telling the truth so difficult? → 01:52:18 - What is her relationship with her father like today? → 02:00:45 - What did investigators uncover during the case? → 02:05:15 - Why did she decide to tell her family's story? → 02:09:02 - How does she protect her peace while keeping her father at arm's length? → 02:13:12 - Why did she decide to share her story publicly? → 02:16:38 - What does she hope other survivors take away from her story? Further Listening: → I Lived With Bill Gates After Escaping Abuse Check Out Victoria: → https://www.instagram.com/ruizandrobledocleaningco/ Resources: → https://www.houseofruthinc.org/ → https://www.loveisrespect.org/ → https://www.thehotline.org/ → https://www.cpedv.org/ → https://ncadv.org/ Megaphone - OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time - Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts