My Fiancé Tracks Every Thing He Does For Me in a Spreadsheet

Ring, ring! It's 1-800-BRIDESMAID. Author and pro bridesmaid Jen Glantz brings her hit newsletter to life in this judgment-free zone for all your messy, real wedding, love, and friendship dilemmas—plus expert advice to help sort them out. This week, Jen is joined by Jennifer Rodriguez, an elopement expert who helps couples skip the stress of traditional wedding planning and get married in simple, meaningful ceremonies that focus on what really matters. But today’s listener question takes the conversation in an unexpected direction. A bride-to-be writes in after her fiancé proudly reveals a spreadsheet he’s been secretly keeping for three years. Inside are detailed logs of everything he’s done for her—he says it proves his love. She says it feels… unsettling. Is this extreme organization? Emotional bookkeeping? Or a warning sign about how he views their relationship? Episode Highlights: • Why couples are increasingly choosing elopements over traditional weddings • The hidden costs of wedding planning nobody warns you about • Why keeping financial transparency in relationships is critical • How “scorekeeping” can quietly damage trust between partners • The difference between intentional love… and transactional love If you’ve ever felt pressured by wedding expectations or questioned a partner’s behavior… this episode is full of insight and honest conversation.