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Welcome to My House My Foundation with your host, Dr. Maryam Mirath. Dr. Mirath will discuss the many issues that cause us to submit to a life that's less fulfilling and less healthy.

Maryam will investigate this national dilemma of poor health and lack of time for physical activity and offer simple yet concrete solutions to this growing problem. So now please welcome the host of My House My Foundation, Dr. Maryam Mirath. Welcome friends.

Welcome to Dr. Maryam Mirath's show, My House My Foundation, on the BBM Global Network and Tune in Radio. Today we're going to have a very special topic here which is common to so many families. That's the aim of my show to bring you common topics that resonates with so many people.

Because a lot of us, we don't have physical activities into our lives. That is the aim of my show to show you how easy it is to incorporate a physical activity, some natural exercise into the lives of everyday people who are unable to get to the gym or go out for it. And I said, well, your body is with you. Why don't you use the internal gym?

It goes wherever you are and it's always available. And we don't use our internal gym. We sort of use the external gym that we're used to. We like the weights and the gym at practice and it sort of gives us a good workout and that's very good.

But for so many Americans, so many families, so many people across the nation that are unable to get to the gym. The internal gym is your best option. So every time in our show we have a guest, we have a guest case study. And today we will be talking to Mary.

Mary, she's 63. And she takes care of her mother. Her mom is just about 99 years old. And she lives with her.

Family caregivers is such a huge number of population. Such vast number of people, they have their parents stay with them. And their family caregivers, what best to have your mom stay with you. But in this situation, what has happened is that Mary's mother, she used to walk.

And she's an active independent woman. And she used to get out and she used to walk three miles every day. And Mary was very happy about that because she has her own business. She's an entrepreneur.

She's a business woman. And so she doesn't really get that time to spend at home. And she was very happy that her mother was able to go out and walk and get her physical activity and be independent on her own. But Mary's mom, unfortunately, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's.

And authorities have decided that it is not wise to have the mother walk outside the house on her own. So what has happened now is that she does not get her physical activity that she was used to. She doesn't go for her physical walker. She doesn't get out of the house.

And so she has become in-home mom. So she stays home. And Mary is very concerned about that because she's not at home. To take care of her mother, she has a business to run.

And that's her livelihood. And it's very demanding. And she's out for very long hours. And when you have your own business, you have to put in more hours than a 9 to 5 job.

And she drives, she travels. So she has a very limited amount of time that she can spend with her mother. And she was very happy with the fact that mom was able to get up and about and go out and have a walk. And that's the best exercise, some old-fashioned walking.

And parents love that. And once you're a walker, you always enjoy your walker. And she used to go out and walk by herself. And she has the keys.

So you go, you walk, you come home, and you're able to take care of yourself. And that's the reason things have changed a little bit. And life has sort of changed and become more stressful in this household where Mary lives with her mother. But what to say that you have to take the mother to the doctor for her regular check-ups.

And she does that. So the days that mom has to go to the doctor's visit, Mary goes with her mom. But recently, after she has been diagnosed with this form of dementia, Alzheimer's, this is a form of dementia, it's no longer advisable to allow the mom to go out on her own. And that has sort of caused a lot of friction between the mother and Mary.

And so now the mother is at home. So she's at home by herself and she no longer goes for her walks. And she has, Mary has the doctor's orders followed. And so mom is at home and she does have house help coming for her physical therapy.

And she's following the doctor's orders carefully. And she takes care of her mother. She has the food and the nutritional supplements and everything else done right. And she's just that she is not there physically.

So the mother is by herself most of the day. And when she returns in the evening, she's quite exhausted. And she has to attend to her emails and she has a couple of calls to make and of course there's Facebook. And she has other activities at times.

She has to go out for dinners and networking events because she runs her own business. And it's important to go to these networking events. And a lot of them take place in the evening hours. So not only does Mary have to be out of the house during the day, but most of her evenings are also spent out of the house.

And she has to spend weekends also, you know, it's her own business. So a lot of hours are spent outside the house. And mom is inside the house and unable to go out because now she has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. So that life in this household has sort of just turned upside down.

And this is a very stressful time for Mary because it's her mother. And she cares deeply for mom, but she's unable to pull herself from her job and spend more time with her mother who has become more demanding because now she's unable to go out of the house and it causes a lot of stress for Mary. But we have to follow the doctor's orders and she cannot let her mom out of the house and go over a walk. So mom stays home.

And the number of caregivers in this country is ever increasing. We have millions and millions of caregivers taking care of at least one parent. And caregiving is not as easy as you might think it is because your parents are seniors. They're in their older years.

You know, they're elderly. So the demand is much greater. They're sort of growing older. They sort of become a baby.

They're actually mentally, you know, they want time. They want somebody to talk to. They want activities. And they want you like the child wants the mother when the parents will go, they don't want somebody else coming to the house.

They actually want the doctor or the son, you know, the child. So in this case, mom wants Mary to spend time with her and time is just not what Mary has. And so there's a lot of friction and tension in this house because mom is now home all day. So Mary's looking into other options and she wants her mother to be involved in social activities and you'll get up and about a little bit more than she does.

But it's a little bit different right now. So this household is under a lot of stress these days with mom being at home and Mary being out of the house, which is a common situation in a lot of families because of course the adult child has to be out for the job. And they're out most of the day and the evenings and the weekends, you know, they have their needs and their activities that they need to attend with your job related. So they're out not only in the daytime, but they're out in the evenings and the weekend and the parent does not go with them because these are business meetings and business dinners.

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Mary Merad and today we're having a case study. Our guest today is Mary. She's 63 years of age and she's a family caregiver to her mom. And in this country we have like 40 million caregivers that take care of a parent that has a disability.

And you would not believe the impact that each household has even though there are so many of these households out there. But each one is individual. Everybody has a different situation. So with Mary she has her own business and mom is at home.

And ever since mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, the doctor has advised that mom should no longer be going out for her daily walks that she enjoyed. And she was a walker. So now Mary has her caregivers and she has physical therapy come to the house. But mom is, she just does not like talking to these help assistants that come to her house.

And so what she does is she goes to a room and she locks the door. So she is not wanting any interaction with either the caregivers or the physical rehab people that come. She just does not want to talk to them. She just does not entertain any type of conversation.

And she definitely does not exercise for doing physical therapy. So mom has now spent all day in a room and she clocks the door when she knows there is somebody else in the house. She will just lock the door. So she is in a room all day.

And because it is lonely so she was a television aunt and that is her family and friends come on television. So mom stays home the whole day and she is locked up in her room and she is not coming out. So instead of adopting to a lifestyle with caregivers coming in and physical therapists coming in. So she can have her physical therapy at home and caregivers to take care of her like the doctor has prescribed.

Mary's mom now she has decided that she wants nothing to do with either of these help. And she locks herself in her room and she is not going to talk to them. She is not going to answer any of their questions and she just does not want to even see them. So it is a very very difficult situation for her.

And mom she loved her walks and now her daily walks that she used to go out and she used to walk three miles every day. That has been taken away from her. So this is her way of retaliating. So she discovered a woman has come out and she says if I am not walking I am not going to come out of my room.

Which is very stressful for Mary because it is hard for her to work outside all day. I mean she has a business to run and mom has decided to be locked in a room with the television aunt and all the lights on curtains closed. And she is not going to talk to anybody. She is not going to interact with anyone.

And she is definitely not talking to the physical therapists and the caregivers that come to the home. So it is an extremely stressful for Mary and this transition with this new diagnosis of Alzheimer's. It is hard to take for both mom and Mary and they have not had a chance to work out this new lifestyle where mom cannot walk. So she has to stay home.

And it is kind of difficult with her being out all the time. And there is no way that she can abandon her business or spend more time with mom at home. And so this new lifestyle is very challenging. And there is no way that mom is accepting to this new lifestyle.

She just does not accept this lifestyle of her daily walk being taken away from her. She just does not want anything to do with her. So she says Mary, you do not want me to walk outside. I am going to stay in my room and I am not coming out.

So it is extremely stressful. And the stress shows and Mary says that she loves her mother dearly. And mom is not willing to go out with a walk with either of the friends. So Mary has tried one of her neighbors to come home and sit and talk with mom.

But she just does not come out of her room. She locks the door. Anytime mom knows there is somebody else in the house, what she does, she goes to her room, she locks the door. And that is it.

You cannot go. You can invite her out for a cup of tea or tell her that you cook her favorite food. She is not coming out. You can tell her what you want.

And she is not going to answer. And she is inside. It is a very unhealthy situation that has developed here in this family following the mom's diagnosis with Alzheimer's. And for a patient with Alzheimer's, it is absolutely not advisable to let them out on their own.

And people with Alzheimer's, they are called wanderers because they want to walk. You know, they are walkers. And so in this condition, they do walk. And Mary is looking into a nursing home even.

But she refuses. She says, no, I am staying at home and there is nothing wrong with me. And I don't know about Alzheimer's. If somebody has Alzheimer's, they can go to one of these places.

This is my house. And I live here. This is where I am staying. So mom has decided that she will stay at home.

And staying at home means staying locked in a room. That is what she is going to do. And there is no compromise because there is no conversation. She is not willing to even talk to Mary on anything.

It has just been like a complete shut off. She has just decided to stay in a room. And that is it. You don't want me to go out.

Okay, I am not going out anywhere. And my room is my world. And I will stay in. I don't want anybody else to come and tell me what to do.

And I know what to do. And I am old enough. And I live my life. So these are the conversations that take place between Mary and her mom.

So very, very stressful. And so there is a lot of loud noise and these loud words. Even though they love each other dearly, but very stressful lately. Alright, so we will be right back after this short break here on My House, My Foundation.

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I'm your host, Dr. Mary Mirad. Today we're looking into the life of one family caregiver, one family, out of the estimated 43 million homes that provide parents' family caregiving. These people are taking care of their parents at home.

It sounds easy, but it's definitely not. We're talking to Mary 63 here today. She has a business, she's a businesswoman, and her mother of 89 years lives with her. Mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's.

Her mother was a walker. She used to walk three miles every day and that was a physical fitness. She used to go out for a walk and she enjoyed walking. But as the doctor has diagnosed her with Alzheimer's, he has advised her that she should not be outside walking by herself.

Instead, he has told her to bring in physical therapists and family caregivers to take care of her. Mom is sort of decided that she's not going out. She's not going out of her room either. She stays in her room the whole day.

She just locks the door and there's no conversation. So Mary comes home and she goes to her mother's room and that's where mom is. So they have dinner together and that's in her mom's room. Mom's not going to come out for dinner or watch the television in the family room.

No, she wants to stay in her room. So if Mary wants to talk to mom, she has to go in mom's room. And of course, the television is always on. Mom has one of her favorites running and it's fairly loud.

So Mary has to carry a conversation over the television. And if he gets to a stressful topic that mom just doesn't want to discuss, mom will not converse. She just closes and she will sit there with her eyes closed and her mouth closed and she's not going to talk about it. So the stress has been affecting Mary a lot and I suggested to Mary that you need to.

You're the only one that your mother allows you to take her out and you're the only one that is responsible. And you're the only one that can take her out for a walk. So what you do is whatever time you come home, since you also don't get any physical activity. She works such long hours and the first thought in her mind is I got to rush back home and take care of mom.

So she's either at work or at home and it's like working two jobs, a job, her own business and coming home, taking care of her mother. And so I told Mary that people with Alzheimer's, they don't live in a time zone. You know, mom, she has her television on 24 hours and she has a curtains closed. So whether it's sunlight or moonlight or day or night, she doesn't really connect to the outside world.

And whatever time you come home, why don't you take mom out for a walk? Just go out for a walk and it's nice and pleasant in the evening. It's good for you. And so she has some asked mom that would you like to go for a walk?

And her mother was very surprised that she would let her out of the house. So they're looking into this activity together. So this would get mother out of the house, it would get her some physical activity. And this will renew her walking because she was a walker.

And I tell you, a lot of people listening to the show, they walk. And when you walk, it relaxes you. People don't think of walking as a form of exercise. It's a form of meditation.

It's a form of relaxing. It's like a complete Baha'adi massage. And you connect with nature. And it's just so wonderful to get out there.

And people enjoy the path. They love the trees and they love the birds singing. They connect with so many things in nature and the fresh air blowing in your face. You just like it.

You get out there and you inhale. And it's just so much different to breathe outside than inside. You feel the freshness, especially these morning walks and evening walks. There's so much cooler and temperature cooler.

So Mary has now started walking with her mother. And this is more for her mom's sake than Mary's sake. So mother needs to get out of the house. She needs to get out to her locked room when she's in all the time.

So she has agreed. And the first day they walked, it was like a silent walk. There was absolutely no conversation between the two. And mom sort of allowed her to have Mary walk her in.

And they both walked together in silence. Mom put her nice sneakers on. And she has her jogging clothes. She's got her sports wear because she was a walker.

And so she went out for a walk with Mary. It was a silent walk. It was a slow walk. She was telling me that mom walks faster than I do.

And she could have walked a little bit more. But I wanted to get back home and go to bed and take a warm shower and just catch up on my sleep. And it's a long exhaustive day tomorrow. But it sort of mopped and say anything.

But she allowed Mary to take her out for the walk. And they didn't walk as long as mom used to. I mean, three miles to the long walk. So they walked to the park.

And they came back and mom used to walk further. And she used to do a couple of laps around the park and talk to her friends. And so she misses all that. So this was her first walk.

And it went pretty well. At least mom went out for a walk. And she came back. And Mary was telling me that night.

The television was also mom came back at a shower. You know, Mary helped her with a shower. And she went to bed. And she actually slept the whole night because of the walk.

So this was a very positive step for Mary to take. She took her mother for the walk. And after you walk, you sort of have a nice shower. And then you want to sit down and you're tired and sort of just close your eyes.

And up with your head on the pillow and sleep. And it's a very good sleep because walking is, I tell you, the best exercise because it's a complete total body exercise. And mom had it walked for such a long time. So this was like so refreshing to get out to the house and work better than just to have a simple walk with your mom.

And it definitely felt good. It was a short silent walk. But definitely it left a big impact on Mary because this is what she needs to do. She's the only one that her mother allows her to take her outside.

She has to be more responsible because her mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. So she cannot allow her mother to go out on her own. And so if she can go with her mother, that would be the best. It's just the time factor she doesn't have.

But she needs to put this time in for her mom because her job is getting affected. There's so much stress because mom is stressed at home, locked up in her room. So if she can't really focus on her work during the day. And so now she has put in starting to come home.

And whatever time she gets home in the evening, she takes a short walk with her mother. And we need to take a short break here. And you're listening to My House, My Foundation. I'm your host, Dr.

Mary Amurad. And you're on the BBC Global Network. And tune in to the radio. So stay tuned and we'll be right back.

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We can do it together. Welcome back. Welcome back to My House, My Foundation, on the BBM Global Network and TuneIn Radio. And I'm your host, Dr.

Maryam Arad. And in today's show, we're looking into the life of one family caregiver, one in about 43 million homes in this country, where parents are taken care of by a adult child, and each one is different. And out of this 43 million homes, 16 million are actually taking care of a parent with Alzheimer's. Can you imagine?

16 million homes are adult family caregivers taking care of a parent with Alzheimer's. So, these brave souls, these loving adult children, they have decided to take care of their Alzheimer's diagnosed parents, and take care of them at home. And this is very, very demanding. And each one is a different situation, because Alzheimer's has many forms.

And it's unpredictable how the parent will react. And in this situation over here, we have Mary. She's 63. She runs her own business.

And she's out at the home the whole day, with her mom being at home the whole day. And mom, what she does is she locks herself in a room, and she's not coming out, and she just does not like it when she was told that she cannot go out and walk, because she's a walker. So now Mary has started to come home, whatever time she gets home. And she takes her mother for a walk.

And so this has started to be like a case breaker. It breaks the ice. They don't really talk much. But at least this is mom allows her to take care of her.

And they go for a walk together. And they come back and Mary helps mom take a shower, and she takes mom into bed. And mom has a good night's sleep. And so she's a little bit calmer.

And on the days that Mary comes home, and she's unable to take her mom for a walk, it's not that pleasant. Mom has loud words to say, and she's not happy with the fact that she's not able to go out for her walk. And the mother sees no reason why she can't go out for a walk by herself. She's been doing it for years and years.

And all of a sudden now, she's unable to win. And she doesn't like that. Mary doesn't let her go out for a walk. And she's not happy with the doctor and telling her to stay at home.

And this is a cause of conflict here. And Mary is so stressed out. And the stress is starting to show her work. So she has to find the time for mom in the evening when she comes home and to take her for a walk.

So this has been like a breath of fresh air for this family here. Because mom is home all day. She talks to no one. She wants to go out no place as she does not want anybody to come and interact with her.

And the only interaction she wants is with a television that's on in a woman or locked door. And that's it. She only wants to hear these reruns of old televisions running in a room and a very, very difficult situation. But we have some light over here for this family.

And so walking is not only good for Mary. She's telling me that she feels relieved. You know, the walk is good. And she knows she needs to get some exercise.

And on this weekend, she took her mother for a walk in the morning. So they went out for a walk. And after that, they had breakfast outside. So it was like she saw a smile in her mother's face after such a long time.

And this is what her mother wants to spend more time with her baby girl. And you know, mom loves her dearly and she loves her mother dearly. But it's just the friction that mother is not adapting to this new lifestyle. I've not been able to go outside of the house on her own.

So this is very difficult for the mom to understand the car is standing there. And she doesn't need a drive in. She can walk in. And even they don't want her to walk.

You know, okay, if I don't drive, then I'll just walk in. No, you can't drive. You can't walk. You have to stay at home.

So mom is not accepting this. And I spend very stressful. And even when Mary calls her mom and home from work, and it's not always definite that mom will answer the phone. So even though Mary will call her that have you had your breakfast, have you had your lunch?

How are you, mom? And it's not 100% of the time that mom will pick the phone up and answer her and talk to her and tell her that, yes, I had my breakfast. And I took my medicine. And now I'm watching the show or, you know, I talked to anybody.

No, she doesn't like these phone conversations. So Mary is really stressed because before mom used to answer the phone and, you know, they had a brief conversation. And she knew that mom was okay. And she said, oh, so mom's at home now.

And the only time Mary can talk to the mother is when she comes home. And there's physical conversation, you know, standing in front of mom. And you give her hug and tell her mom, I love you. And mom will say, I love you back to her.

And then, you know, ask her. Did you have your food? And she says, yes, there's a brief conversation. And mom will answer when she wants to it.

And she won't answer, you know, when she doesn't want to. And she won't answer. But she allows Mary to take her in the evening for a walk. So that has become like a staple in this household.

And now mom will go out in the evening for a walk. And she likes it. You know, the thing is mom walks past because she's a walker and Mary's not a walker. So Mary walks alone.

So even when they go out for a walk, the mom is like walking really fast and Mary sort of has to run behind the mom to catch up. And it sort of amuses mom a little bit. And that's her speech. You know, she's a nice slim, tall lady, very elegant.

And she likes to walk. So she's got her walking there. But she walks at a faster pace. And Mary has a little bit to wait on.

And she's, you know, she could lose a couple of pounds. And she doesn't walk so fast. And so she's like chasing mom. Mom is walking fast and Mary is close to running.

And she was describing her walk. But this is her mother's therapy. You know, the mother needs to get out. This is the only time that she will leave the house.

And it has to be with her daughter because she does not associate. She does not communicate. She does not allow anybody to communicate with her. And if you ask, she will not answer back.

And it's not easy being a family caregiver because parents, they develop different habits. So when they age, different habits come out and different health conditions. And their taste buds change. So they have Pacific demands on the food.

You know, they don't want to eat this. They want to eat that. And so she goes to great lengths to please her mother and get what she likes to eat. So it's a demanding job in family caregiver and working.

And she's doing her own business. So it's very, very taxing. But fortunate to this evening walk here that allows mom to do what she wants to do. She wants to walk.

And evening is the only time that Mary has to walk her mom. So mom has to wait the whole day for Mary to come home and take her for a walk. And she doesn't quite understand why she's not allowed to walk herself. You know, why she hasn't stayed home the whole time.

And she's been doing this all her life. And so there's a lot of tension and friction between the two. And the mother tends to lose her temper a little bit more. And Mary has to show a lot more patience.

And she has to accommodate what her mother says without answering back. And she has to smile and be adoptive and caring no matter what the mother says. And sometimes it's very hurtful because they will say things that they feel are true and they feel that are very real and genuine. And they could not be because their mind is working in a different way when your age.

So Mary is taking her mom for walks now. So the walking is back in. And I was suggesting to Mary that why don't you put in a shorter walk in the morning? Because she settles down in the evening when she walks.

You know, she has a little bath and she relaxes her and she sleeps good. So the day she walks, the day Mary takes her mother for a walk in the evening, mom feels relaxed and she feels calm. And she's released her tension and her anxiety sort of goes while she's walking. And she sleeps and she actually sleeps.

So she has a good night's sleep. And Mary's noticing this positive change and this necessity of requirement that her mother needs to walk. And it's not easy finding time for mom because it's not only that half an hour they go out for a walk. It's the time before.

First they have to have a snack and then, you know, the walk and then you come back. And then she has to bathe her mother, you know, she has to shampoo her, wash her face, everything change. And then put it give her a little snack and then, you know, she goes to bed and then she has to attend to herself. So she's so tired and exhausted and also with you from the walks.

So she has to take a hot shower and she was telling me I could fall asleep standing in the shower. I'm so tired. And then in the morning, the mom is up early in the morning and she's waiting for a morning walk. Mary's an out to bed as yet and mom's already ready for a walk.

And she's like, okay, well, if you can't go all by myself. And then she has to drag herself and mom does not like to wait. She's very impatient and she, this impatientness has sort of come out in her. It wasn't always there.

So she gets very impatient. And this is the only activity this mother and child they do together is they go out for a walk. And that's the only communication. And they don't really talk that much.

So this is like a silent therapy for her, silent relaxation and meditation. And these calms are down. And after the walk, she sort of stays home and Mary goes out peacefully to work. But it's very, very exhausting for Mary to go for a walk in the morning and then go for a walk in the evening.

But it's excellent for mom. She needs this. And so for her mother, she's doing it. And she's actually thinking of selling her business.

She was telling me it's too demanding. And I need to take a job, which is part-time. And so I scaled down my business. And so I'll be able to spend more time with mom because she works.

And when it's your own business, she travels a lot and long hours and meetings here and networking events there. And lots of work. So she says that it takes time. The work is very demanding.

So it takes time that she needs to spend with her mother. And since she's the only child, she feels the responsibility that she has towards her mom because her mother was the one who raised her. And they had a terrific mom and daughter relationship all along. And mom has always been there for Mary.

You know, she was always there. And she was her best friend and her best supporter. And whenever something happened, first person Mary would call would be her mother. And if things have changed now and mom doesn't really answer the phone, and she'll pick it up and say hello.

And that's about all the conversation. So she's not going to really answer the phone. But it's not really definite that mom will pick the phone and answer while Mary's at work. And so she has a peace of mind that she knows mom's at home.

And what are you doing? Have you had your food and on be back at this time? So there's not that normal conversation that used to take place between Mary and her mother before she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. And she was home, but she had her own activities and she would go out in the day walking.

And mom didn't really drive that much, but she would walk. And they lived in such a place that the clubhouse is nearby and grocery store is nearby. And she has a friend's nearby. And she has so there was a need to drive.

And they have one car. So Mary would take the car. So mom didn't have the car in the day. So she would walk in all the facilities near her home and everything is nearby in walking distance.

And now it's very hard for mom to understand why I can't go out the house. You don't want Mary not allowing me to meet my friends. And it's so hard to explain to parents and language that they understand. So Mary has now decided that she has to scale down.

And what her mother wants is a more mother-daughter time. And this is a form of therapy. She can take her mother to the best doctor. She can get the best medicine.

But what her mother needs the most is time with her daughter. And even though there's not much conversation, but her mother allows her to take up her walk. And she doesn't like to wait. So Mary has to spend, be ready.

And mom is always alert person. And she's always ready before Mary with her. Whether sports clothes on and shoes on and laces tied up and everything. And Mary is like, I need to change.

And mom doesn't like that waiting time. So she has to be in pace with mom's life and talk to mom and be there. And the mother allows Mary to spend time with her, which is fortunate. So I was telling her that you need to make this change because mom is responding to you.

And don't close the store between mother and daughter because if this door closes, life will get super difficult. And once the door closes, sometimes it does not reopen. So keep this mother-daughter relationship there. And while you're on a walk, give your mom a hug and pat her on the shoulder and tell her that you love her.

And even though she may not answer back, but tell her I love you mom. And two, three times. And when you're leaving the door or when you're walking or when you come back, mom will enjoy the walk with you. And say positive words to mom and all she wants is to spend time with you.

And time is what Mary doesn't have. So she's scaling down. But even the scaling down is difficult because she has to, you know, so many things to do with the paperwork, the physical work, the moving, the shifting, the offices. And then at the same time, she has to keep pace with mom per morning walk or evening walk.

And mom is always ready. She was telling me that her mother could walk 24 hours because she's outdoor person. And this is the only time that she gets out is when she goes for a walk. The walk is like her natural therapy.

And it's the best thing. It's a total body exercise. So you walk and I was telling her that you don't have to run after mom anymore. So you also develop STEM now.

And you're listening to My House, My Foundation on the BBM Global Network and Tune in Radio. And I'm your host, Dr. Mary Emerat. And we'll be right back after this short break.

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And in today's show, we shed some light on one home. One home out of the 43 million homes in this country where parents are being taken care of by their adult children as family caregivers, 43 million homes. And out of the 43 million, about 16 million are taking care of parents that have Alzheimer's. They have been diagnosed with Alzheimer's.

Like our case study today, Mary, she's 63 and her mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Now, Mom wants to stay at home. And it's very difficult to take care of Mom full time. And so she has to cut down from her job.

She's got her own business. And she's going part time because she needs to spend more time with her mother. And so she has to adjust her life drastically, major changes in her life. So to take care of her mother, spend more time with Mom.

And her mother has locked herself in her room and she's not coming out. And the only person that can take Mom out of the room and out of the house is Mary. So there's a huge demand on the family caregivers, on these adult children who are not paid. You know, they're not paid to take care of their parents.

So this is sheer love that they take care of them. And they have to put in this time because if they do not, the bond sort of breaks and once you break it, it's broken. They sort of close the people, the Alzheimer's patients, they close, they withdraw. They just go inside themselves.

It's like living inside a hard walnut shell. And it's hard to break through again. So at all costs, you know, spend time with your parents and going out for a walk is the easiest way. And get them out into the fresh air.

A walk does a lot of things. It's a complete body exercise all in one. And there's contact. So there's contact with you.

There's contact with nature. They get up and about. It's the whole body movement and they like it. And they need it.

And this puts them to sleep. It calms their mind. So very, very essential for our listeners that are taking care of family caregivers, you know, they're family caregivers taking care of especially parents that have Alzheimer's Alzheimer's. They need to walk.

They need to get out of the house. But of course, they cannot do it on their own. So the best way is to have your child spend some time with you. But then the child has to take time away from their job.

So they have to cut back their working hours, which means a pay cut, you know, in this case, she's selling off her business and going into a part-time situation to spend time with mom. But this is out of love. This is out of the goodness of your heart that we take back and what mother has given us in our younger years. We have to give that time back to our parents.

And walking is the best exercise for adults and for parents, especially with Alzheimer's. So walking is the best exercise. It's the easiest exercise. It does so many wonders that the entire gym equipment cannot do for you and walking does it.

So she's doing wonderful work over here. Our case study today, our guest here today. And I wish mother and daughter the best of luck together for walking. And they not only walk once a day, they walk twice a day.

So that's the best thing. Have short walks. Whatever mom feels good. You know, spend time with mom.

So you can go out. She loves to walk. And you know, just spend time with mom. Keep her happy.

And happy parents. Happy mood. They stay happy. There's no harsh words.

The feelings are sweet. The feelings are love. The feelings of care. So this is what you want to do.

They want you around. So you have to be around for them. And so what can I say? Parents, it's very difficult.

And we have 43 million homes in this country. Each has a different story. So you have been listening to My House, My Foundation, on the BBM Global Network and Tune in Radio. And I'm your host, Dr.

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