"My Husband Is Giving Me the Cold Shoulder; What Do I Do?" (Marriage Unhindered)

If you've ever sent a text, meant it to be NBD, and suddenly found yourself in a heated battle, you are so not alone. 😅 On this episode of Marriage Unhindered, therapist dream team Doug and his daughter Monica Hinderer take a call from Mary, a wife of 33 years, who's just trying to go camping... without emotional landmines. 🚐     The Conflict: Trailer Trouble & Radio Silence   Mary shared a pic of their busted trailer floor in the family group chat. Her husband totally lost it. 🙈 He shut down, started name-calling, and hasn’t spoken to her in five hours.   Why the meltdown? Doug and Monica help Mary (and us!) break it down:   💢 His likely triggers:   -Disrespect (He felt like she should’ve checked with him first.)   -Failure (That photo made him feel like a bad handyman in front of the whole family.)   Doug explains that men can be super sensitive about these two things, and this little moment was a perfect storm. ⛈️     Monica’s Advice: Don’t Chase, Don’t Explode   Monica gives calm, Christ-centered advice for conflict repair:   ✅ Let him cool off. (Stonewalling means he is trying to self-soothe, even if it’s immature.)   ✅ When things calm down, say something like:   “I’m sorry for upsetting you. That wasn’t my intention. I’d like to talk when you're ready.”   ✅ When he’s open, gently ask:   “Help me understand what triggered you, because I didn’t see it the same way.”   But also: Don’t ignore his bad behavior.   “Swearing and name-calling aren’t okay. That hurt me.”   It’s about growing together. 🙌     💡 Doug’s Take: Conflict = Opportunity   Doug shares this gem 💎:   “Conflicts are great chances to learn how to love your spouse better... and for them to learn to love you better.”   Let’s be honest: every married couple has their weird, recurring conflict patterns (read: landmines you keep stepping on 🙃). The trick is learning from them... not just surviving them.     The final advice: ➡️ Start with humility. ➡️ Be curious, not accusatory. ➡️ Keep boundaries around disrespect.     💕 Your Takeaway:   If your spouse overreacts... don’t retaliate. Slow down. Breathe. Ask questions. Apologize if needed, but don’t excuse sin or verbal abuse.   Marriage = sanctifying chaos with sacraments. 😂💒   You can listen to the whole hour with Doug and Monica Hinderer here!     The best way to listen to the Best of the Week is on our #1 Free Catholic App. It’s free and always will be! To get and share the Relevant Radio app, check it out here.