My Sober Dating Diary Pt2 - Bath Bombs To Boundaries

What this episode covers

<p>We're diving into part two of my sober dating diary—a real-life story that involves a cute date, an unexpected trip to a cannabis shop, and a bath bomb that turned into a major wake-up call.</p><p>Dating after divorce is awkward enough. But when you're sober and your date casually suggests a relaxing soak in a "CBD" bath—you learn pretty quickly who respects your boundaries and who treats your sobriety like a buzzkill.</p><p>I also share:</p><ul><li>The truth about "California sober" and why it doesn't work for me</li><li>How people-pleasing and old patterns can sneak back in, even after years of sobriety</li><li>Why I walked away and what it taught me about owning my sobriety, unapologetically</li></ul><p> </p><p>This story is for anyone who's ever compromised a little too much to seem “chill,” or needed a reminder that you're allowed to have boundaries—and you're allowed to walk away when someone crosses them.</p><p>✨ Your sobriety isn’t just “okay”—it’s powerful, it’s valid, and it deserves to be honored.</p><p>🔔 Like, comment, and subscribe for more stories from the sober dating trenches, plus tips, real talk, and radical honesty every week.</p><p>📬 Want more? Head to sistersinsobriety.substack.com for behind-the-scenes content, journal prompts, and community support.</p><p>Highlights</p><p>[00:00] First dates after divorce—applying mascara for the first time in years and meeting someone who <em>doesn’t</em> drink</p><p>[01:10] When a park stroll turns into a casual detour to a cannabis shop (um, red flag?)</p><p>[01:55] What “California sober” really means—and why it’s not part of <em>my</em> recovery</p><p>[02:50] The power of “playing the tape forward” and how it helps me avoid old traps</p><p>[04:00] He says it’s just a CBD bath bomb. I ask (repeatedly) if it has THC. He says no.</p><p>[05:10] Ten minutes into the tub and I’m feeling like a human gummy bear</p><p>[06:00] The bold print truth: Delta-8 THC. And a sinking feeling—literally.</p><p>[06:45] Why I ignored my instincts to be the “cool girl”—and what it cost me</p><p>[07:45] The moment I knew I’d never see him again (and why that mattered)</p><p>[08:20] Sober dating isn’t just about tolerance—it’s about respect, celebration, and self-trust</p><p> </p><p>Links</p><p>💌 <a href='http://sistersinsobriety.substack.com/'>Sisters In Sobriety Substack</a> – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen</p><p><a href='mailto:[email protected]'>📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email</a></p><p>📸<a href='https://www.instagram.com/sistersinsobrietypod/'> Sisters In Sobriety Instagram</a></p><p>🌐 <a href='https://www.kathleenkillen.com/'>Kathleen’s Website</a> <em>Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast</em></p><p>📸 <a href='https://www.instagram.com/coupleswithkathleen/'>Kathleen’s Instagram</a></p><p><br><br>Support this podcast at — <a href='https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations'>https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations</a></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>