My Spouse Wants To Stay But Says He’s Not Attracted to Me. Now What Do I Do?

What do you do when you’ve worked on yourself, shown up well, and your spouse still isn’t attracted to you but says they want to stay?  Learn how to stop waiting for clarity, read your partner’s actions, and decide how you want to show up in the relationship. We talk about The difference between asking “Why don’t they want me?” and “How do I want to show up given reality?” Why pressure and neediness decrease attraction even when you’ve “done everything right” How your spouse’s actions, not their words, reveal what’s actually happening The role of courage in relationships, especially around sexuality and honesty How testing your partner keeps you stuck Why suppression, affairs, or pornography may reflect lack of sexual integration and has nothing to do with your worth The importance of self-respect and choosing how you engage, rather than waiting to be chosen This Week’s Invitation Notice where you are waiting for your spouse to decide something. Ask yourself if their actions have already given you an answer.  Then consider how you want to show up, given that reality. Book Mentioned To learn more about high desire and low desire partners, read this! Intimacy and Desire by David Schnarch Let’s Connect Join me on my YouTube channel Complex Couples Podcasthttps://www.youtube.com/@complexcouplespodcast Have questions?Have a story to share? Share your story with me here: complexcouplescoaching.com/questions If you need further help with this, this is the work that I do and I’m passionate about.If you’d like to learn more, I created a Free Guide called "When Your Spouse Comes Out: 9 practical tools to help you navigate the aftermath of disclosure or discovery." You can download it here.  Email me at: [email protected] Your emails help shape future episodes. You don’t have to face this alone.