Naming the Grief, You Can't Yet Name (S7 Ep.5)

In this solo episode I tackle the complex topic of grief. If you grew up in a narcissistic or dysfunctional familysystem, the first roadblock to this grief is often minimising it. “It wasn't that bad”“Other people had it worse” “I've nothing to complain about"We say this so automatically, that we never even get to the feeling underneath it.In the episode, I use an example that might surprise you —Ireland's colonization, and what happened when we were denied our own language.I know that sounds like a strange place to start a therapy podcast, but stay with me, because the parallel is exact: a narcissistic parent does the same thing to a child. They deny you the language of yourself — your own feelings, wants, preferences, boundaries — until you're so disconnected from them that you don't even know they were ever yours to have. And it's hard to grieve something you never knew you were missing.This episode goes deeper into the invisible child, the cruelty of the inner critic, and how to start giving yourself the compassion you never got.Take The Quiz  –  What is Your Number?BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast