Narcissistic Abuse & Divorce Trauma from a Narcissist

Send us Fan MailRelative Insights sits down with a special guest to discuss the trauma experienced in a same sex marriage with a person who exhibits narcissistic traits and subsequent trauma experienced when trying to separate yourself. It's unfortunate, but many victims come to the understanding that divorce/separation doesn’t stop the narcissistic abuse; in fact, it often escalates when a victim finds the courage to separate. Many are under the misconception that females cannot have narcissistic traits, but this is untrue. Men are diagnosed with NPD at much higher rates, but female narcissists do exist. As Hack discussed, her wife exhibited those traits and caused tremendous narcissistic trauma towards her. She shares her empowering story and raw truths about her marriage and divorce from her wife. We also discuss ways in which to heal and navigate through the trauma of divorce from a narcissist. What Can I Do To Prepare?Understanding the realities of divorcing a narcissist can be overwhelming and terrifying. Here are some things to keep in mind:They lie about anything. Be prepared to prove reality, but only if you have to.They will paint a picture of you that is unrecognizable.Get an extremely effective attorneyGather irrefutable evidenceBuild your support tribe and lean on them!Develop good coping skills and engage in self-care.Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries - set them and maintain them, especially communication boundariesDocument everything.This is not an exhaustive list of tactics that abusers may use against victims, but below are some common ways that narcissistic abusers during and after divorce:Blaming you solely for breaking up the familyGaslighting the childrenCalling CPS on the victim for made up concernsHiring a nanny to spy on you and make false allegations against youFighting for full custody by making false allegations about the victim’s parenting skills or mental healthTurning the victim’s family, friends, clergy, and community against herStalking the victimCalling, emailing, texting, and visiting the victim under the guise of parentingIgnoring the children’s needsEmotionally, verbally, and psychologically abusing childrenKeeping the victim’s property hostageReleasing private information, photographs, or other private material about the victim to humiliate themCheck these sites out:https://www.survivedivorce.com/divorcing-narcissisthttps://narcissistabusesupport.com/https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-find-a-narcissistic-abuse-support-group-5271477https://medium.com/the-virago/6-powerful-books-helped-me-recover-from-narcissistic-abuse-da1d17e1f512Support the show