Narcissistic Abuse & the Nervous System: Why Healing Feels So Hard (and Why You’re Not the Problem) | With Alea Coburn

Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!!Narcissistic Abuse & the Nervous System: Why Healing Feels So Hard (and Why You’re Not the Problem) | With Alea Coburn🎧 Show NotesWhat is the real cost of healing after narcissistic abuse?In this deeply honest and emotional episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani sits down with Alea Coburn to talk about what it actually feels like to heal after growing up with a narcissistic and emotionally neglectful mother.We explore the concept of choosing peace at the cost of aloneness, and why for many survivors, being alone can feel safer than being unseen, dismissed, or emotionally erased.Alea shares her personal story of survival, including the physical impact of trauma on her body, experiences with performative care, and the moment she realized she could no longer stay in relationships that compromised her well-being.Together, we unpack:Why narcissistic abuse is so difficult to nameHow shame gets internalized in daughters of narcissistic mothersWhat “social invisibility” does to your nervous systemThe difference between real care and performative careHow trauma shows up physically in the bodyWhy anger is not toxic, but a source of wisdomRed flags in relationships that survivors often missThe emotional cost of staying vs. the courage it takes to leaveThis episode is raw, validating, and at times intense, but it is also deeply empowering.If you’ve ever felt like you were “too much,” “too sensitive,” or responsible for your own pain, this conversation will help you begin to untangle what was never yours to carry.💬 Key TakeawaysYou are not too much. You were unmet.Your body is not broken. It is responding to what you lived through.Anger is not the problem. It is information.Being alone is sometimes the first step to no longer being invisible.Healing may feel isolating, but it is also where you begin to come home to yourself🧠 What We Talk AboutNarcissistic mothers and emotional neglectNervous system dysregulation and trauma responsesShame, identity, and overcompensationPerformative care vs. real supportPhysical symptoms of emotional abuseRed flags in relationshipsBoundaries, anger, and self-trustChoosing aloneness as a path to healing🔗 Work With Alea + Learn MoreAlea Coburn is a truth-teller, pattern seer, abuse survivor, and advocate who helps women rebuild trust, intuition, and health after narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, and systemic trauma.Her work is for women who feel unmet, unseen, and ready to reclaim themselves.✨ Connect + Explore:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rusticpeach/Website: aleatamar.comSubstack: aleacoburn.substack.comYouTube: youtube.com/@aleacoburnSelf-Reprogramming Toolkit + Offerings: Available via her websiteLive Event: Building Attunement For Her (2nd Run – April 3)🔗 Resources + LinksFollow the podcast: Beyond Mommy DearestWork with Noelani: www.beyondmommydearest.comFollow the instagrm: https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/Support the show