Navigating Nutrition in Long-Term Eating Disorders With Jaren Soloff, RD @wholewomennutrition

What changes when an eating disorder has been part of someone’s life for 10, 20, 30, even 40+ years? In this conversation, I’m joined again by my friend and longtime collaborator Jaren Soloff, RD, IBCLC, the founder of Whole Women Nutrition. Together, we talk about why nutrition work looks different in long-term eating disorders, and why the starting point is almost always the same: safety. Jaren shares how decades of reinforcement can make symptoms look “functional” on the surface, while the eating disorder quietly shapes identity, routines, and self-worth. We explore the common pattern of minimizing, the fear that can spike when restriction loosens, and the tender reality that for many people, the eating disorder has served as protection, especially in the context of criticism, attachment wounds, body-based judgment, and the impossible standards placed on women across the lifespan. We also get practical. Jaren walks through what it can look like to make food feel safer through small, doable steps, including DBT-informed tools, sensory supports, and intentionally planned “after-meal” structure that helps the nervous system ride out discomfort without snapping back to restriction. If breakfast feels impossible, or discomfort after eating feels like a dealbreaker, this episode offers compassionate, concrete ways to build tolerance and trust, slowly and steadily. Finally, we talk about the midlife reality so many people face: body changes through perimenopause and menopause, and the way those changes can collide with long-standing eating disorder beliefs. Jaren explains why metabolism may shift with long-term restriction and aging, how loss of lean muscle mass can affect energy needs and health, and why increased fat storage in midlife can be an adaptive, protective process for bone health. We also name the risks of GLP-1 medications for people with eating disorders, including concerns about appetite suppression and the potential for additional lean muscle loss, especially for women in perimenopause and menopause. If you have felt “broken” because your body doesn’t respond the way it once did, or if you’ve carried an eating disorder for decades and wonder whether change is still possible, this conversation offers a grounded, compassionate path forward. You deserve care that moves at your pace, and support that treats safety as the foundation, not an afterthought. In this episode, we cover We discuss why long-term eating disorders require a different nutrition framework, how safety often sits at the center of recovery work, and why minimizing can keep patterns in place even when someone appears to be “functioning.” We talk about learning to tolerate discomfort after eating, building self-soothing skills, and using DBT-informed, sensory-based strategies to create new neural pathways. We explore perimenopause and menopause, including changes in estrogen, lean muscle mass, metabolism, and body fat distribution, and we name how ageism and sexism shape body fear in midlife. We also discuss GLP-1 medications and why they can be especially risky in the context of eating disorders. About Jaren Soloff, RD, IBCLC Jaren Soloff is a registered dietitian and international board-certified lactation consultant. She is the founder of Whole Women Nutrition, where she provides nutrition counseling and lactation support for adolescent girls and adult women, and supports families in raising competent, intuitive eaters. Jaren brings both professional experience and the wisdom of her own recovery journey to her work, with a steady emphasis on compassion, collaboration, and safety. Related Episodes Orthorexia, Quasi-Recovery, & Lifelong Eating Disorder Struggles with Dr. Lara Zibarras @drlarazib on Apple & Spotify. Navigating a Long-Term Eating Disorder on Apple & Spotify. Why Eating Disorder Recovery Feels Unsafe: Facing Ambivalence in Long-Term Struggles on Apple & Spotify. Pregnancy, Postpartum, and Eating Disorder Recovery With Jaren Soloff, RD on Apple and Spotify. Connect with Jaren Website: WholeWomenNutrition.com Instagram: @wholewomennutrition