Navigating Romance When You Have Anxiety, OCD Or Depression With Allison Raskin

Today's guest, Allison Raskin, is a New York Times best selling author and mental health advocate. Her 3rd and latest book, “Overthinking About You: Navigating Romantic Relationships When You Have Anxiety, OCD, and/or Depression” just came out on Tuesday (May 3). When we polled you, our Shandies, over on Instagram about this topic, the floodgates of messages and emails opened, so we do our best to cover the most common themes today, including when to reveal your mental health struggles in a new relationship, how to communicate your needs (and what to leave out), and how to tell the difference between your anxiety and your gut instincts. If you've ever found yourself obsessively agonizing over whether or not someone's right for you, today's conversation just might be for you.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5!- Go to https://go.factor75.com/SHANDY120 and use code SHANDY120 to save $120!More AllisonBuy Her Book - https://amzn.to/3MRMPNyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/allisonraskinInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/emotionalsupportladyPodcast - https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/just-between-us0:00 - Welcome To Allison Raskin!5:19 - When Should One Share Their Mental Health Struggles With Someone They're Dating?9:32 - The Difference Between Process And Content—How Much Should You Share?15:43 - Where's The Line Between Unnecessary Anxiety And Listening To Your Gut?17:28 - Attraction21:24 - How To Combat A Lifetime Of Being Told What A "Right" Relationship Looks Like25:21 - What If Your Partner Doesn't Know How To Help Or Understand?28:35 - Thoughts On If One's Partner (Or Partner-To-Be) Expresses Hesitation Because Of Their OCD?36:01 - How To Prevent Your Partner From Eventually Taking Things Personally?39:58 - Must One Have Their Mental Health Struggles Under Control Before Dating?41:40 - Tips For Navigating Dating When It's A Cause Of Anxiety48:16 - What To Do If Your Partner Refuses To Help Themself?51:43 - Advice For Couples Where Both Parties Are Struggling Individually53:34 - Medication57:31 - What's The Gold Star Response To Give When Your Partner Opens Up About Their Struggles To You?58:49 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Today's guest, Allison Raskin, is a New York Times best selling author and mental health advocate. Her 3rd and latest book, “Overthinking About You: Navigating Romantic Relationships When You Have Anxiety, OCD, and/or Depression” just came out on Tuesday (May 3). When we polled you, our Shandies, over on Instagram about this topic, the floodgates of messages and emails opened, so we do our best to cover the most common themes today, including when to reveal your mental health struggles in a new relationship, how to communicate your needs (and what to leave out), and how to tell the difference between your anxiety and your gut instincts. If you've ever found yourself obsessively agonizing over whether or not someone's right for you, today's conversation just might be for you.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5!- Go to https://go.factor75.com/SHANDY120 and use code SHANDY120 to save $120!More AllisonBuy Her Book - https://amzn.to/3MRMPNyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/allisonraskinInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/emotionalsupportladyPodcast - https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/just-between-us0:00 - Welcome To Allison Raskin!5:19 - When Should One Share Their Mental Health Struggles With Someone They're Dating?9:32 - The Difference Between Process And Content—How Much Should You Share?15:43 - Where's The Line Between Unnecessary Anxiety And Listening To Your Gut?17:28 - Attraction21:24 - How To Combat A Lifetime Of Being Told What A "Right" Relationship Looks Like25:21 - What If Your Partner Doesn't Know How To Help Or Understand?28:35 - Thoughts On If One's Partner (Or Partner-To-Be) Expresses Hesitation Because Of Their OCD?36:01 - How To Prevent Your Partner From Eventually Taking Things Personally?39:58 - Must One Have Their Mental Health Struggles Under Control Before Dating?41:40 - Tips For Navigating Dating When It's A Cause Of Anxiety48:16 - What To Do If Your Partner Refuses To Help Themself?51:43 - Advice For Couples Where Both Parties Are Struggling Individually53:34 - Medication57:31 - What's The Gold Star Response To Give When Your Partner Opens Up About Their Struggles To You?58:49 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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