Navigating the Complexity of Working with Families In a “High Conflict” Divorce

In this episode, I speak with Steven Friedlander, Ph.D. about working with families involved with “high conflict” divorce, as well as parental alienation/parental rejection situations. Steven discusses his career and how his work led him to researching and writing about parental rejection/parental refusal, and his approach for this work. He described the different roles that clinicians can play in helping a family where there is a great deal of conflict and discussed the Special Master/Parenting Coordinator role, the co-parenting role, child custody evaluation, and the therapist role. He explained the complexity of researching the effectiveness of treatment for families dealing with rejection/refusal, as well as differentiating between a parent who may be acting in a way to alienate their child, and a case where there is no clear evidence for alienation, but seemingly brought about as a by-product of the enmeshed parent. Steven Friedlander, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist with a special expertise working with families when a child is refusing or resisting contact with a parent. His most recent publications have focused on post-divorce disruption of family relationships, and interventions designed to resolve those problems. Dr. Friedlander facilitates consultation groups for other professionals which focus on interventions with families when a child resists/refuses contact with a parent, and parent coordination in high conflict families. He previously served on the Board of Directors of the California chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC-CA) from 2005-2014. Dr. Friedlander is Clinical Professor Emeritus in the Department of Psychiatry, University of California San Francisco t