Navigating the Newlywed Years | Dr. Jeremy Boden | #38

Our conversation today is with Dr. Jeremy Boden who talks about the importance realistic and hopeful expectation have in creating a stronger marriage connection. By committing to our partner and being aware of their needs, we can build our relationships in such a way that helps them last beyond the newlywed years.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Jeremy Boden?1:56 – Why would we need relationship education when we love each other so much?4:59 – Marriage is a loss of some expectations7:00 – Biggest issues newlyweds face9:26 – Intentionality is key to avoid “drifting”11:04 – Adjust expectations15:40 – Expectations will be adjusted throughout our lives16:43 – What does commitment look like?21:55 – Over-reactions can wreck our connections23:15 – S.T.O.P. technique24:40 – Resources for newlyweds26:35 – Keys to a stronger marriage connection – Safe, Seen, and Soothed29:12 – How to prepare for and navigate the newlywed years30:38 – How to choose a marriage partner32:38 – Jeremy’s takeaway: be aware of your partner33:58 – Liz’s takeaway: there is always hope35:13 – Dave’s takeaway: exercise mindful awarenessAbout Jeremy Boden:Dr. Jeremy Boden is an associate professor of family science at Utah Valley University. He teaches courses in marriage and relationships, human sexuality, family dynamics, and couples therapy in the marriage and family therapy program. Jeremy is a licensed marriage and family therapist and maintains a small private practice inProvo, Utah where he specializes in couples and discernment counseling. He's also the owner and director of the Center for Marriage Preparation which helps couples get ready for marriage through his Before We Say I Do program. Jeremy is married to his beautiful and wonderful wife, Daria and they are the parents of four children.Insights:Jeremy: Help foster a stronger connection with your partner by helping them feel safe, seen, and soothed.Dave: Compassion is the blood of relationships.Liz: Expectations for your relationship will always need to be adjusted throughout your life.Invites:   •    For the first 5 years of your marriage, commit to reading one marriage book with              your partner per year.   •    Connect once a day and date once a week with your partner.   •    Talk with your partner about what expectations might be in your wagonJeremy Boden Links:   -    https://marriageandfamilysolutions.teachable.com/   -    https://www.symbis.com/couples/   -    https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/relate-assessment Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.comhttps://drdavespeaks.comFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSUFacebook Marriage Group:Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life.Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book StoreWritten by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduceThe opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.orgYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLifeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelifeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.comhttp://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/