Negotiating A Pay Rise, Changing Your Last Name & Ending Friendships

This week Clementine is talking; negotiating a pay rise, taking your partner's last name & ending friendships. I am trying to negotiate a pay rise for a new job I have just been offered. I'm not asking that much, but for some reason I feel so guilty and greedy even when I recently found out a much young man, with less experience than me was on $25k more than me...please help! I’m getting married in a couple of months and I’m feeling very conflicted about taking my partner's last name. I’ve tried talking to multiple people about how I’m feeling, but every single person thinks that I should take his name. My fiancé understands where I am coming from, but says that having the same last name will be a new beginning for us to create our own family. In saying this, him changing his last name is not an option. Changing my last name just makes me feel a little sad, like I am losing a part of myself. Am I overreacting? I recently ended a friendship with someone because of their persistent victim mentality stance. My issue is I feel some guilt about doing this and it has me thinking about some of my other close friendships. If we choose to stay friends with someone out of loyalty and essentially ignore all their toxic and self-destructive tendencies, are we becoming enablers of their behaviour? Is it wrong to continue to be their friend, or is it acceptable because people aren’t perfect but what essentially matters is how they treat you? If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: [email protected] CREDITS Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie Executive Producer: Edwina Stott  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.