Negotiating for Pleasure: How to Speak Up, Sync Up, and Level Up Your Sex Life | Sexuality & Health

In this episode of Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with Dr. Jen Kennedy, leading sexologist, couples therapist, and founder of pleasureproject.com, for an honest and grounded conversation about sexual dissatisfaction, low libido, and intimacy challenges in long-term relationships. Together, they unpack the reality that “low libido” is often not a fixed condition, but a reflection of emotional disconnection, stress, anxiety, and unmet relational needs. Dr. Kennedy explains how desire is deeply responsive to psychological safety, communication, and self-care, and why rebuilding intimacy often starts outside the bedroom. The conversation explores how couples can navigate mismatched desire with empathy and curiosity rather than shame or pressure. Eve and Dr. Kennedy also highlight the importance of vulnerability, consent, and emotional attunement in reigniting passion and sustaining long-term erotic connection. Dr. Kennedy also introduces insights from her signature program, Pleasure Circle, which helps individuals and couples rebuild sexual confidence and connection through guided practice and communication tools. The episode includes a realistic role-play demonstration showing how to initiate conversations about sex, navigate discomfort, and co-create mutually satisfying intimacy without defensiveness or blame. This episode is a practical and compassionate guide for anyone navigating desire discrepancies, relationship stress, or seeking a deeper understanding of sexual wellbeing in long-term partnerships. What You’ll Learn • Why low libido is often linked to stress, anxiety, and emotional disconnection • How emotional safety and communication influence sexual desire • Ways couples can navigate mismatched libido with empathy and curiosity • The importance of vulnerability in rebuilding sexual connection • How self-care and mental wellbeing impact arousal and intimacy • Practical tools for talking about sex without shame or defensiveness • How to handle timing differences and desire discrepancies in relationships • Insights from Dr. Kennedy’s Pleasure Circle program • Real-life role-play on initiating conversations about sex and intimacy Connect With the Guest Dr. Jen Kennedy Founder of pleasureproject.com Creator of Pleasure Circle Resources from Eve The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/ 30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/ Connect With Eve Website: https://pleaseme.online Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com Patreon (Ad-Free + Bonus Content): https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices