内心：如果变得内心强大， 不为他人所动

How can I become mentally strong, so that no one can dominate me, influence me and bring me down?Charissa Enget, lives in Kamphaeng Saen, Nakhon Pathom, ThailandWhen I moved to Thailand, I went through verbal abuse unimaginable to anyone from a Western culture. I was the only foreigner in my town, and as such, I was the tallest, fattest one there.I will not go through everything that was said to me, but I rarely went a full day without someone negatively commenting on my appearance. Professors told me I looked more beautiful in long sleeves because they covered my “fat arms”. Random children yelled to their parents that “I wasn’t that fat for a foreigner”. Adults I knew reached over and covered my stomach if they thought it looked unflattering. Random women publicly humiliated me in a language I didn’t know. You can read more about it here if you’re interested.For months I was filled with rage. I felt insecure constantly, I knew everyone was judging my body. I felt dislike towards every Thai person I saw. Most days I avoided leaving my apartment when possible so I wouldn’t have to deal with the comments. I kept my head down to avoid attention, but being the only white girl in a town of Thai people, that never worked. Eyes were on me constantly.After months of this, something happened. I was going to be here for two years, there was no changing that I’d never fit in. I had a shift in the way I thought of myself.I began to think of myself as the weirdo.There’s power in accepting that you’ll never be accepted. You don’t have to try anymore. There is no fear of rejection because you expect to get rejected. Nothing offends you anymore.If I walk down the street and hear, “That is the fattest, biggest foreigner I’ve ever seen”, it doesn’t offend me at all anymore. If I hear someone insult my hair, I’ve identified as the foreigner so I don’t care about matching their standards.Nothing offends me. It’s like a superpower.I can wear whatever I want. I can say whatever I want (as long as it is kind, of course). I can pursue any dream I want. I can look however I want. I can do anything I want. I am unlimited.When you expect to not be accepted, and you’re okay with it, you’ll become powerful beyond measure.