Nervous System & Conflict: Real Conversations on Mom Therapy | Elizabeth Earnshaw

Get the real conversations and mom therapy you need to stop flooding. Learn how your nervous system impacts conflict dynamics and relationship stress.Elizabeth Earnshaw @lizlistens with podcast Host Erin Vandermore discusses "Flooding"—a state where the nervous system is so overwhelmed by stress hormones (like cortisol) that the thinking brain (prefrontal cortex) goes offline. Visualizing this "Flip of the Lid" helps listeners realize that they cannot solve a conflict while their body is in a state of biological emergency."Avoidance Patterns" and "Relational Safety."The Nervous System & Conflict (03:15): Why your body treats a disagreement like a physical threat and how to recognize the early signs.Real Conversations on Flooding (08:45): Recognizing physical signals like leg shaking, facial flushing, or a racing heart before a spiral occurs.Mom Therapy & Avoidance Patterns (14:10): Understanding why "shutting down" is a nervous system survival strategy, not a lack of caring.Emotional Regulation in Relationships (19:30): Practical tools to de-escalate and return to a state of relational safety.Understanding the "Window of Tolerance"In relationship dynamics, conflict usually happens when one or both partners are pushed outside their "Window of Tolerance." Visualizing this helps listeners identify their "threshold" and understand that co-regulation is the path back to the center.This episode serves as essential mom therapy—providing the real conversations and psychoeducation needed to recognize nervous system triggers and create lasting relational safety. Stop the spiral before it starts. Download Mind Circuit EASE app for a science-backed Nervous System Reset and tools for Emotional Regulation to help you stay grounded during difficult conversations: Google Play →⁠⁠⁠⁠https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.app.ageOfUncertainty&hl=en⁠⁠⁠⁠ App Store →⁠⁠⁠⁠https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mindcircuit/id6478664305⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Us: Instagram →@mindcircuitappYouTube → @MindCircuitAppWebsite →⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠@Mindcircuit#Nervous System #Codependency #MomTherapy #SecureAttachment #EmotionalRegulationDisclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including episodes described as "Mom Therapy" or "RealConversations"—is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship.Emergency Resources:If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please do not rely on this content. Call or text 988 (in the US and Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or head to your nearest emergency room.The Mind Circuit App "EASE": Use of the Mind Circuit app is a self-help tool for emotional regulation and is not a substitute for clinical treatment.© 2024 Erin Vandermore. All rights reserved.