Niki Vinogradoff on realising the potential in ourselves and others (without needing wild hogs or Finland’s SWAT team) (#37)

2:18 - A sports coach who makes you push further than you thought possible. 4:19 - pushing people to perform better without being a dictator. 8:10 - getting better at leading yourself and others under pressure. 13:38 - managing stress. 15:43 - how to break free from stress. 18:50 - stress reaction is not useful. 20:51 - how can we change our habits and behaviours? 23:31 - change is emotional. 25:19 - how can we get beneath the surface to the values and identity level in a conversation? 29:19 - who am I and what do I want? 30:53 - be specific with your questions. 31:16 - how to let people find their own solutions. 33:24 - getting more clarity about what they want. 35:07 - being honest with ourselves about what we want. 39:16 - it's not about finding the thing we love to do, it's about the meaning we give to the things we do. 40:40 - being honest about yourself. 44:49 - honesty is not always simple. 48:02 - how to deal with our shame better to avoid needing to lie. 53:32 - how painful honesty opened up the relationship. 54:08 - connect with Niki.  You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at https://candourpodcast.com/niki-vinogradoff/