No Fear, No Hope

We nail the sound this time, feels good. Sam tells some wild tales from Hare Krishna boarding school, we discuss relationships in our 40s compared to our 20s and also ring a bell a few times.Sam finally tells (part of) the boarding school story, which does involve a bit of corporal punishment and vague military or martial vibes. Some Hari Krishnas were feeling a bit judged and vulnerable in those days, and perhaps that explains it.Reclaiming labels that people mock you with. And snitches get stitches.We structure up: bells announce the conclusion of a topic.When you have ADHD you need structure. You have to create it for yourself.Structure also allows for better connection, better relationships, better work and play.Unlike the relationships we had in our twenties, not always very structured. Two entertaining people. Two agents of chaos. One drawn to intensity. One drawn to stability, with no idea how to provide it for someone else or take personal responsibility.Struggling with commitment. Playing at being adults in a forever relationship, when you're nowhere near being able to accomplish that.Idealism and realism. Hope and fear. Buddhists say "no hope, no fear", and therapy does that I reckon. So does AA. Alcoholics very often have 'high ego and low self-esteem.' AA is very good at crushing down the ego. Right-sizing the ego. But AA doesn't always raise the self-esteem at the same time. Ordinary mind, ordinary self. Treat everything as important, but hold these things lightly at the same time. Fantasies of the future and past are just that. Be in the present. See things and other people clearly, clear mind, clear heart.Making progress and getting better at being on time. Good practice. Being a hard to reach friend. Everything is important. Everything is sacred. Holy holy holy as Alan Ginsberg said.Creators & Guests Joe Loh - Host Sam Ellis - Host Hit us up on threads or instagram @thetenthousandthingsor email, that’s the classy thing to doMusical theme by maestro Ehsan Gelsi recorded live at the Melbourne Town Hall