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EPISODE · May 4, 2026 · 24 MIN

"No One Is Coming to Save Me": Sacha Hughes on Grief, Self-Sabotage & Finding Her Voice

from Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali · host Dr Connie Kerali

"Where is this guy? I want to be rescued. And then I realised: No one is coming to save me."In Episode 31 of Speak Shame, author Sacha Hughes shares her journey from self-sabotage to self-love and how she turned her pain into a published novel. When Sacha was 24, her mum died of cancer. She turned to Pinot Grigio to numb the grief. For years, she believed Mr. Right would rescue her from the depths of despair. When that marriage ended in divorce, she had a choice: sink or rise. She chose to rise. What you'll hear: ·      Growing up as the shy, anxious youngest of four already carrying the belief "I'm not good enough" ·      How her mother's death sent her into a decade of self-sabotage, numbing with drugs & alcohol, and searching for rescue ·      The moment she realised: "This breakdown is going to become my breakthrough" ·      Five years of reading spiritual books while her children slept, absorbing Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Eckhart Tolle ·      The Shirley Valentine moment that sparked her debut novel ·      Her advice: "Stop leaning into the hurt. Start leaning into the lessons." Sacha's message: You are responsible for your life. No one is coming to save you. Put on your own superhero cape and become your own heroine. If you've been waiting for rescue, if you're stuck in self-sabotage, if you feel like a fraud in your own life, this conversation is for you. Topics covered: grief and loss, self-sabotage, numbing with drugs and alcohol, people pleasing, imposter syndrome, spiritual awakening, divorce recovery, turning pain into purpose, finding your voice, writing as healing📖 Get Sacha's book: Love, Grief, and More Sex Than Pinot 📲 Connect with Sacha: Instagram @SachaHughes | SachaHughes.com | Facebook01:17 Meet Sacha Hughes02:00 Chapter One Childhood04:51 Losing Mum and Coping06:48 Marriage Divorce Turning Point07:36 Healing Books and Meaning08:39 Holiday Spark Writing Begins09:43 Becoming an Author12:50 Advice for Feeling Stuck15:54 Getting Visible and Connecting17:31 Where to Find Sacha18:24 Key Takeaways and Self Rescue20:15 Shame Themes and Identity22:13 Remarkable Woman TributeGET IN TOUCHJoin the community:@DrConnieKerali on InstagramSign up for my Born Worthy newsletter to get your weekly dose of empowerment.Are you ready to break free from the shame that keeps you stuck? My free, on-demand, Shame Resilience Workshop is for Remarkable Women who are tired of hiding parts of themselves and are ready to step into a life of authenticity, courage, & self-compassion.Hello Remarkable Woman, do you know your story matters but don't know how to tell it yet? Join The Storytellers Club, a free, private community hub to discover the power hidden in your story through creativity & connection.

"Where is this guy? I want to be rescued. And then I realised: No one is coming to save me." In Episode 31 of Speak Shame, author Sacha Hughes shares her journey from self-sabotage to self-love and how she turned her pain into a published novel. When Sacha was 24, her mum died of cancer. She turned to Pinot Grigio to numb the grief. For years, she believed Mr. Right would rescue her from the depths of despair. When that marriage ended in divorce, she had a choice: sink or rise. Sh...

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