Nobody's Coming to Save You: Reclaiming Your Identity After Loss with Monique Carkum Edwards

What happens when everything you built your identity on—your marriage, your title, your carefully constructed life—falls apart? In this raw and transformative conversation, host Liv Lewis sits down with Monique Carkum Edwards, Esq., corporate attorney, pastor, and author of "The Snatchback," to explore the messy middle of separation, divorce, and life transitions.After experiencing her own divorce in 2020 and a career-shaking layoff in 2024, Liv knows firsthand what it means to lose your anchor. Together, Liv & Monique dismantle the illusion that our worth is tied to roles like wife, mother, or executive, and reveal the dangerous equation society teaches us: do the right things, check the boxes, achieve happiness.This episode tackles the uncomfortable truths about identity crisis, grief without timelines, and why the people who broke you aren't coming back to fix you. Monique introduces a groundbreaking framework distinguishing purpose (what you can't help doing), calling (the container for your purpose), and assignment (the temporary role or title)—explaining why your purpose is portable, even when everything else falls away.5 Livd Truths for the JourneyYou Are Not Your Job Title: Your purpose isn’t your position. Your assignment may change, but your purpose travels with you. Know the difference between your purpose, your calling, and your role—and don’t confuse any of them with your identity.Be Your Own Hero: Waiting for an apology or a rescue? Don’t. Healing begins when you decide it’s time. The people who hurt you won’t fix it. You can—and you will.Grief Doesn’t Clock Out: Grief moves in spirals, not straight lines. You’ll loop back before you leap forward. Let yourself feel it all. And find those who can sit with you in silence, not rush your healing.Soul Work Before the Next Chapter: Before you jump into “what’s next,” tend to what’s now. Your soul needs care—journal, pray, cry, breathe. The glow-up starts inside.You Weren’t Fired—You Were Launched: Sometimes the shake-up is divine. That “loss” was an induction into your next level. Disruption can be delivery in disguise.Books Discussed In This Episode: The Snatch Back: Reclaiming Your Life One TruthA Hand To Hold Connect With Monique: IG: @moniquecarkumedwardsJoin the Livd Community:⁠ https://www.livd.co/membership⁠Subscribe to the Livd Newsletter: ⁠https://www.livd.co/newsletter⁠Need Guidance? Learn about coaching packages here: ⁠https://www.livd.co/coaching⁠Connect with Livd Stories:IG: @livdstoriesWebsite: ⁠https://www.livd.co/