Non-negotiable things

Most people growing up have at least one non-negotiable thing imposed by their parents, usually in the form of a belief about they way the world is, or about things they have to do if they want to be okay. This almost always leads to either the kids strongly opposing this non-negotiable thing for a large portion of their lives, or the kids falling in line, for fear of the consequences, and doing exactly what their parents want in this regard. In either case, these non-negotiable things are the things that people struggle with the most typically throughout their entire lives, and these things are often the cause of many irrational decisions and bad choices throughout that individual’s life. It is like… the continuation of a generations-long cycle when a child decides to just go along with it, and it is the breaking of a cycle when the child decides not to. In either case, it is a difficult, lifelong battle for the child, because these heavy beliefs about reality imposed upon them by their parents are both hard to carry around and extremely difficult to let go of fully. The truth is, this is generational trauma they are carrying around with them, and releasing it takes time, and many people never release it.