NTM 560: Perimenopause, Pressure & The Rage Button

If you've ever found yourself snapping at your partner, yelling at your children, or wondering why your anger feels bigger, faster and harder to contain than it used to, this conversation is for you. In this episode, we unpack the silence-explode cycle so many women find themselves trapped in, particularly during the motherhood and perimenopause years. We explore why anger isn't the problem, what it's trying to tell you, how depletion, over-functioning, sleep deprivation and hormonal changes shorten your fuse, and why the real work isn't suppressing your anger or unleashing it on everyone around you - it's learning to listen to the deeper truth underneath it.In this episode we discuss:- Why anger isn't the problem - and why we need to stop making it the villain- The silence-explode cycle and how pressure builds long before the outburst- Why motherhood, perimenopause, ADHD, burnout and depletion can shorten your fuse- Anger as a messenger rather than something to suppress or fear- The shame spiral that often follows explosive reactions- The difference between expressing a feeling and reacting from it- Emotional truth versus conscious, integrity-led behaviour- How threat responses hijack our ability to choose how we show up- The softer truths often hiding beneath anger - hurt, loneliness, disappointment and unmet needs- Why anger acts as armour protecting something more vulnerable- Learning to stay in your body instead of abandoning yourself when anger arises- The importance of safety, pauses and nervous system regulation before communication- Creating more space between trigger and reaction- Self-compassion, accountability and personal responsibility- The identity shifts many women experience through motherhood and perimenopause- Letting go of the "good girl" who keeps everything together until she can't- Why sleep, nourishment, hydration and rest matter more than we think- Building a healthier relationship with anger that supports connection rather than destruction- Asking: What is anger trying to tell me?- How self-awareness becomes the pathway from rage to revealing.Want support on this journey? Come join us inside Honey Club - where we melt these blocks together, one breath, one practice, one deep remembering at a time. Find out more at julietenner.love or visit: https://julie-tenner.newzenler.com/courses/honeyclubReach out to Bridget for 1:1 coaching - bridgetwood.life