EPISODE · Apr 21, 2026 · 23 MIN
Old Wounds, New Hurts
from The Affair Recovery Room · host Tim Tedder
The common explanation for why affairs happen is usually a marriage story: we grew apart, I felt neglected, something was missing. And sometimes those things are true. But they're rarely the whole story.In this episode, Tim talks with Kayla Crane, a licensed therapist specializing in inner child work and trauma, about the childhood roots of adult behavior — and what that has to do with infidelity. They explore how the adaptive patterns we developed early in life don't disappear when we grow up. They go underground. And in the stress of a marriage, they resurface in ways we don't always recognize — sometimes driving us toward betrayal, sometimes making it nearly impossible to heal from one.If you've ever sensed that the "why" of the affair (and reactions to it) runs deeper than what's on the surface, this episode is worth your time.LINKS and EXTRASEpisoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/053Kayla Crane’s Website: SouthDenverTherapy.comNeed personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.
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What drives someone to have an affair? Most people, including the person who had one, focus on what was wrong with the marriage. But therapist Kayla Crane argues the answer goes deeper than that. In this conversation, Tim and Kayla explore how the survival patterns we developed in childhood keep showing up in our adult relationships — sometimes in ways that lead to betrayal, and sometimes in ways that make healing harder than it needs to be.
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