On Disciplining Children

Question on spanking children: Answer: - children are innocent souls, without deceit or opponents, very pure and holy and very innocent - the things our children do may be no worse than what we did as children - if you spank the children, they will develop an inferiority complex - if you want your children to be good, first the parents must be good - when you spank children, they become obstinate and then will only do what you tell them if you spank them - when parents get upset with children, many times it's because they are upset with each other - if children are made to understand they are not supposed to do something, it is better than spanking - if parents always remember the faults of the children, they cannot bring them up - we are like children in front of the Master; we also make many mistakes, some of them are unpardonable; still He always forgives us so He can take us back Home - Masters see Themselves as children in front of their Master - story of Sawan Singh's children - what strict vegetarians they were - when children are constantly rebuked by their parents while growing up, then they do not take responsibility for their parents when they get old - we can learn a lot from children - when children go to school, the parents should explain patiently and lovingly that they should learn from the teacher - story of child being spanked - 1st 5 years, children need lots of attention, then we can explain things to them - at age 15, treat him like your brother and only give suggestions, otherwise he will go away - story of blind parents who took very good care of their child - in appreciation, when the child grew up, he took his parents all over India to the places of pilgrimage - story of bad-tempered aunt who always rebuked her children - when we have a good attitude for our children, they will be good - criticism will make them bad, praise will make them good - story of Bablu's planned beating - if we remember our own childhood, and put ourselves in the place of our children, we can learn a lot from them - inspire the children to do the devotion of God and take good care of them - many problems are created in the homelife by doing things without thinking about them Bhajan: Aj Shub Diharda E -