Open Relationships With Emily Gindlesparger

Today's Hot Topic dives deep into the world of open relationships! We're joined by author and ghostwriter Emily Gindlesparger, who not only opened her own relationship years ago but discovered her own bisexuality throughout the process. Her new memoir, "Please Make Me Love Me", describes her journey from traditional, straight monogamist to becoming polyamorous with multiple serious girlfriends. Today she shares how she shed her jealousy once and for all, the impact an open relationship had on her primary partnership, the challenges of logistics, and her advice to couples interested in non-monogamy. Emily manages to answer a TON of questions thoughtfully and succinctly, so if you've ever been curious about exploring polyamory—or are just curious how others manage it!—this conversation is for you.More Emily:- The Book, "Please Make Me Love Me": https://amzn.to/3Zwrhfz- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilygindle- Website: https://www.emilygindlesparger.comReferenced Links And Books:More Than Two - https://www.morethantwo.comEsther Perel’s “The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” - https://amzn.to/3SDhO43Jessica Fern’s “Polysecure” - https://amzn.to/3ZuwKU5Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Emily Gindlesparger!1:47 - What Do People Most Commonly Ask When They Learn She’s Written A Memoir About Open Relationships And Discovering She’s Queer3:27 - Was There A Moment Where She Went From Jealous To Non-Jealous7:06 - Would She Say The More She Leaned Into What Was Making Her Jealous, The Less Jealous She Became8:16 - Did Jealous Get Flipped On Its Head To Where She Found It Enjoyable10:43 - What Made Her And Her Partner Decide To Disclose Everything To Each Other (Versus “I Don’t Want To Know”)14:02 - Did They Ever Fight About This15:06 - How Much Of Her Decision To Open The Relationship Stemmed From A Desire To Live Life To The Fullest Versus Wanting To Explore Her Sexuality19:42 - What Does She Think Is The Most Common Misconception About Open Relationships22:41 - Is It Worth Bringing Up That You Want An Open Relationship If You Know Your Partner Is Deeply Monogamous24:33 - Does She Believe One-Way Open Relationships Can Work26:59 - What Advice Would She Give To Someone Whose Partner Wants To Open The Relationship28:27 - Would She Have Ever Opened Her Relationship Had She Been In A Different Community30:47 - Is A “Logistical Toll” Part And Parcel With Maintaining Open Relationships33:06 - What’s Easier: Monogamy Or Polyamory34:54 - Let’s Say A Couple Wants To Open Things Up—Where To Start39:43 - When Did She Realize She Wasn’t 100% Straight43:31 - What Advice Would She Give Her Younger Self On The Topic Of Her Sexuality45:31 - Does She Consider It A Shame To *Not* Explore One’s Bisexuality48:32 - Would She And Her Partner Even Open Things Up Again51:17 - Did She Tell Her Family And If So, Why54:41 - What Self Work Does She Recommend For Those Contemplating Opening Their Relationship58:05 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Today's Hot Topic dives deep into the world of open relationships! We're joined by author and ghostwriter Emily Gindlesparger, who not only opened her own relationship years ago but discovered her own bisexuality throughout the process. Her new memoir, "Please Make Me Love Me", describes her journey from traditional, straight monogamist to becoming polyamorous with multiple serious girlfriends. Today she shares how she shed her jealousy once and for all, the impact an open relationship had on her primary partnership, the challenges of logistics, and her advice to couples interested in non-monogamy. Emily manages to answer a TON of questions thoughtfully and succinctly, so if you've ever been curious about exploring polyamory—or are just curious how others manage it!—this conversation is for you.More Emily:- The Book, "Please Make Me Love Me": https://amzn.to/3Zwrhfz- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilygindle- Website: https://www.emilygindlesparger.comReferenced Links And Books:More Than Two - https://www.morethantwo.comEsther Perel’s “The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” - https://amzn.to/3SDhO43Jessica Fern’s “Polysecure” - https://amzn.to/3ZuwKU5Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Emily Gindlesparger!1:47 - What Do People Most Commonly Ask When They Learn She’s Written A Memoir About Open Relationships And Discovering She’s Queer3:27 - Was There A Moment Where She Went From Jealous To Non-Jealous7:06 - Would She Say The More She Leaned Into What Was Making Her Jealous, The Less Jealous She Became8:16 - Did Jealous Get Flipped On Its Head To Where She Found It Enjoyable10:43 - What Made Her And Her Partner Decide To Disclose Everything To Each Other (Versus “I Don’t Want To Know”)14:02 - Did They Ever Fight About This15:06 - How Much Of Her Decision To Open The Relationship Stemmed From A Desire To Live Life To The Fullest Versus Wanting To Explore Her Sexuality19:42 - What Does She Think Is The Most Common Misconception About Open Relationships22:41 - Is It Worth Bringing Up That You Want An Open Relationship If You Know Your Partner Is Deeply Monogamous24:33 - Does She Believe One-Way Open Relationships Can Work26:59 - What Advice Would She Give To Someone Whose Partner Wants To Open The Relationship28:27 - Would She Have Ever Opened Her Relationship Had She Been In A Different Community30:47 - Is A “Logistical Toll” Part And Parcel With Maintaining Open Relationships33:06 - What’s Easier: Monogamy Or Polyamory34:54 - Let’s Say A Couple Wants To Open Things Up—Where To Start39:43 - When Did She Realize She Wasn’t 100% Straight43:31 - What Advice Would She Give Her Younger Self On The Topic Of Her Sexuality45:31 - Does She Consider It A Shame To *Not* Explore One’s Bisexuality48:32 - Would She And Her Partner Even Open Things Up Again51:17 - Did She Tell Her Family And If So, Why54:41 - What Self Work Does She Recommend For Those Contemplating Opening Their Relationship58:05 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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