EPISODE · May 6, 2026 · 34 MIN
Overcoming Avoidance: Choose Your Path to Success with Cynthia Coufal
from Building Resilience
Do you ever find yourself (or your teen) avoiding things, not because they don’t matter, but because they feel uncomfortable?In this special collaborative episode for Mental Health Awareness Month, Leah shares a powerful conversation from The Teen Anxiety Maze hosted by Cynthia Coufal, and it’s one that might just shift how you think about avoidance, motivation, and success.What if avoidance isn’t laziness… but a nervous system trying to protect you from discomfort?Cynthia breaks down how avoidance patterns form, why they feel so relieving in the moment (but keep us stuck long-term), and how both teens and parents can begin to gently move toward discomfort instead of away from it.You’ll learn how small mindset shifts—like changing “I have to” into “I choose to”, can create powerful internal change, and how helping kids tolerate discomfort is actually one of the greatest gifts we can give them.This episode is a reminder that resilience isn’t about eliminating discomfort… it’s about learning how to move through it.Key Takeaways:Avoidance is a way to escape discomfort, but it keeps problems goingThe feeling you avoid will come back later“I don’t care” is often a form of protectionSuccess requires doing things you don’t feel like doingChanging “I have to” to “I choose to” can shift your mindsetMotivation grows when you connect actions to what you wantSupporting avoidance can reinforce anxiety in kidsGrowth happens when you move toward discomfortKids learn resilience by watching youChange happens when you follow through, even when it’s hardAbout Cynthia CoufalCynthia Coufal is a school counsellor and teen anxiety coach with over 25 years of experience. She helps teens and parents understand anxiety and build confidence through practical tools.🌐 Website: www.cynthiacoufalcoaching.com 🎧 Podcast: https://podfollow.com/the-teen-anxiety-maze 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9WBijdxeYpQSekM7RZYvALINKS AND RESOURCES:COMMUNITYMIDLIFE NERVOUS SYSTEM REWIRE COMMUNITY 👑: A low pressure, fun community for “Queenagers” to regulate, not fix, their midlife nervous systems.Join here: https://www.skool.com/midlife-nervous-system-rewire/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1MENTAL HEALTH STATIONERY - RESILIENT BRILLIANCE PRODUCTS:1) RESILIENCE JOURNAL: A guided journal for emotional well-being and nervous system care Amazon US - https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj2) MY SAFE SPACE : AFFIRMATION AND JOURNAL PROMPT SETAmazon US - https://a.co/d/2mANQs4LET'S STAY CONNECTEDSubscribe to Midlife Recalibrated here: https://substack.com/@midliferecalibratedINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/leahdavidsonlifecoaching/FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/leahdavidsonlifecoachingWEBSITE: wwww.leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Do you ever find yourself (or your teen) avoiding things, not because they don’t matter, but because they feel uncomfortable?In this special collaborative episode for Mental Health Awareness Month, Leah shares a powerful conversation from The Teen Anxiety Maze hosted by Cynthia Coufal, and it’s one that might just shift how you think about avoidance, motivation, and success.What if avoidance isn’t laziness… but a nervous system trying to protect you from discomfort?Cynthia breaks down how avoidance patterns form, why they feel so relieving in the moment (but keep us stuck long-term), and how both teens and parents can begin to gently move toward discomfort instead of away from it.You’ll learn how small mindset shifts—like changing “I have to” into “I choose to”, can create powerful internal change, and how helping kids tolerate discomfort is actually one of the greatest gifts we can give them.This episode is a reminder that resilience isn’t about eliminating discomfort… it’s about learning how to move through it.Key Takeaways:Avoidance is a way to escape discomfort, but it keeps problems goingThe feeling you avoid will come back later“I don’t care” is often a form of protectionSuccess requires doing things you don’t feel like doingChanging “I have to” to “I choose to” can shift your mindsetMotivation grows when you connect actions to what you wantSupporting avoidance can reinforce anxiety in kidsGrowth happens when you move toward discomfortKids learn resilience by watching youChange happens when you follow through, even when it’s hardAbout Cynthia CoufalCynthia Coufal is a school counsellor and teen anxiety coach with over 25 years of experience. She helps teens and parents understand anxiety and build confidence through practical tools.🌐 Website: www.cynthiacoufalcoaching.com 🎧 Podcast: https://podfollow.com/the-teen-anxiety-maze 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9WBijdxeYpQSekM7RZYvALINKS AND RESOURCES:COMMUNITYMIDLIFE NERVOUS SYSTEM REWIRE COMMUNITY 👑: A low pressure, fun community for “Queenagers” to regulate, not fix, their midlife nervous systems.Join here: https://www.skool.com/midlife-nervous-system-rewire/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1MENTAL HEALTH STATIONERY - RESILIENT BRILLIANCE PRODUCTS:1) RESILIENCE JOURNAL: A guided journal for emotional well-being and nervous system care Amazon US - https://a.co/d/7DpuyVj2) MY SAFE SPACE : AFFIRMATION AND JOURNAL PROMPT SETAmazon US - https://a.co/d/2mANQs4LET'S STAY CONNECTEDSubscribe to Midlife Recalibrated here: https://substack.com/@midliferecalibratedINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/leahdavidsonlifecoaching/FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/leahdavidsonlifecoachingWEBSITE: wwww.leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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