Overcoming Jealousy When a Colleague Is Succeeding

Pauline responds to an agent who feels jealous and resentful of a friend and colleague whose real estate business is thriving while theirs has stalled. She normalizes the emotion, calling it the “competitive doldrums,” and explains how obsessively tracking the colleague’s listings and closings feeds a costly spiral that steals time and energy from business development. She challenges the assumption that the colleague’s success is luck, arguing it is usually the result of unseen, consistent work, and urges the agent to honestly assess their own effort. Her counterintuitive advice is to call and sincerely congratulate the colleague, which reduces resentment and strengthens reputation in a relationship-driven industry. Then, stop monitoring the colleague, identify specific actions to move the business forward, set goals, and get back to prospecting and follow-up.   Topics 01:46 Why It Feels So Bad 02:33 The Comparison Spiral 03:33 Luck vs Hard Work 05:11 Ask Yourself Honestly 05:31 Congratulate Them 06:43 Refocus on Your Business 07:32 Competitive Doldrums 08:03 Final Takeaways