Overcoming Sexual Desire Discrepancies: How Planning, Communication & Connection Can Reignite Passion | Sexuality Coach

In this insightful episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve welcomes Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, marriage counselor, sex therapist, and expert in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), for a compassionate conversation about one of the most common challenges in long-term relationships: mismatched sexuality & sexual desire. Together, Eve and Dr. Liz explore the concept of sexual desire discrepancy and why differences in libido are completely normal in relationships. Rather than framing these differences as failures, the conversation focuses on how couples can approach intimacy with empathy, curiosity, and open communication. Dr. Liz shares practical tools for navigating feelings of rejection, avoidance, resentment, and emotional disconnection that can arise when partners experience different levels of desire. She explains how emotional safety, vulnerability, and secure attachment are deeply connected to physical intimacy and why strengthening emotional connection often improves sexual connection as well. The episode also challenges societal myths around spontaneity and desire, introducing the idea that planning intimacy or scheduling sex can actually increase anticipation, reduce pressure, and create more intentional opportunities for connection. Eve and Dr. Liz discuss how couples can prioritize intimacy without making it feel forced or transactional. Listeners will also gain actionable communication strategies for discussing sensitive topics around sex, boundaries, emotional needs, and pleasure in a way that fosters understanding instead of conflict. The conversation emphasizes self-care, emotional regulation, and mutual compassion as key components of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. This episode offers a realistic, encouraging, and deeply validating perspective for couples seeking to reconnect emotionally and physically. What You’ll Learn • What sexual desire discrepancy is and why it’s common • How emotional connection impacts physical intimacy • Why scheduling intimacy can strengthen relationships • Communication tools for discussing sex and desire • The role of vulnerability and emotional safety in intimacy • Self-care practices that support healthier partnerships Connect With the Guest Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky Marriage Counselor & Sex Therapist Expert in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) Resources from Eve The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/ 30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/ Connect With Eve Website: https://pleaseme.online Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com Patreon (Ad-Free + Bonus Content): https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices