Overcoming Sexual Struggles in Marriage | Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife | #35

On today’s episode, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife abouthealthy sexuality and why many struggle in this area. She also discusses how to develop the capacity for deeper emotional and sexual intimacy. She shares the number one goal she has for people who visit with her and her practice.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife2:53 – Where do you begin in your sexuality coaching with clients?3:18 – Time, sex, and money are the top three issues for newlywed couples6:10 – Marriage is a divine institution7:07 – Top insights from studies and dissertation9:40 – The number one goal is increasing people’s ability to have joy11:49 – No other relationship matters like the one right in front of me13:30 – Marriage struggles are not a problem, but a process14:30 – The perfect storm16:19 – Controlling in the marriage18:28 – What can I do to help?19:16 – There is nothing strange with differences in couples20:50 – Finding more space and respect21:35 – We love strength in people22:43 – Perfectionism is a terror that humanity will expose us as unlovable25:03 – Superwoman complex26:57 – Recognize when you are stressed or anxious28:53 – We don’t get to choose if we experience anxiety31:11 – Being willing to face truth through the looking glass of marriage32:33 – Where to go for more information from Jennifer33:26 – TakeawaysAbout Dr. Finlayson-Fife:Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. inCounseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individualsand couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexualrelationships. In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person. Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts about sexuality, relationships, mental health, and faith. She is also the creator and host of Room for Two, a popular sex and intimacy coaching podcast.Insights:Dave: Time, sex, and money are the top three issues for newlywed couples. Relationshiphappiness is often at stake with all of this.Liz: If I can’t say no, then I am not free to say yes.Dr. Finlayson-Fife: All unnecessary suffering is a part of avoiding necessary suffering. Suffering is a part of life. Decide to step into purposeful discomfort, purposeful suffering, to become stronger.Invites:   •    Make sure you can take a step back when you are following a negative pattern, askyourself, what role you have in the pattern? How are you feeding it?   •    In the chaos, uncertainty, and anxiety of life, push for what is true. Trust the process and the honesty in your marriage, it will show you what you need to know to be stronger.   •    None of us chooses whether we experience anxiety, we only get to choose whether its productive or unproductive.Dr. Finlayson-Fife Links:https://www.finlayson-fife.comhttps://www.instagram.com/finlaysonfife/?hl=enhttps://www.facebook.com/finlaysonfife/https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.Finlayson-Fife Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life.Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book StoreWritten by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduceThe opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.orgYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLifeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelifeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.comhttp://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/