Overfunctioning, Underfunctioning, and Personal Responsibility

Have you ever stepped in to fix something that wasn’t really yours to fix? Or waited for someone else to make a decision that was actually yours to make?In this episode of Making Wholeness Possible, Danae and Ken continue the conversation on personal responsibility by exploring overfunctioning, underfunctioning, and the anxiety underneath both. They talk about the “dance” that can happen in relationships when one person overfunctions and another underfunctions, why it can be so hard to change that pattern, and how emotional maturity helps us ask a better question: What is actually mine to carry?Through honest stories, practical examples, and grounded reflection, this episode invites you to start small, stay patient, give yourself grace, and practice taking responsibility for your own choices, attitudes, boundaries, and growth.Show NotesQuestions to Reflect OnWhere am I taking responsibility for something that is not mine?Where am I avoiding responsibility for something that is mine?Am I trying to manage someone else’s reaction so I do not have to feel my own anxiety?What is one small place where I can practice showing up differently this week?Practice This WeekStart small.If you tend to overfunction, look for one place where you feel obligated to carry something for another fully functioning adult. Pause and ask, “Is this actually mine?”If you tend to underfunction, choose one small action this week. Make one decision. Ask for help without handing over responsibility. Take one small step that reminds you that you have agency.Start small, stay patient, give yourself grace, and practice daily.Learn MoreFaithwalking’s course, What No One Told You About Life: Growing Up Emotionally, Managing Anxiety, and Improving Relationships, is designed to help you grow in emotional maturity, manage anxiety, and improve your relationships.Learn more here: https://faithwalking.com/what-no-one-told-you-about-life/