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EPISODE · Aug 24, 2025 · 20 MIN

Overgiving Is NOT Who You Are

from DEAR THERAPIST · host Jasmin Schott

Overgiving Is NOT Who You AreHave you ever found yourself overgiving in relationships, constantly caring for others, hoping (maybe unconsciously) to be loved in return?In this episode, I explore what’s really behind this pattern and why overgiving, merging, or people-pleasing are not personality traits, but survival strategies rooted in emotional trauma.I share a client example, guide you through a short somatic practice to connect with your body and inner child, and explain how the nervous system adapts when love and attunement are missing in childhood.You'll hear:Why overgiving often masks a deep fear of not being lovable as you areHow to begin reconnecting with your needs and your worthInsights from somatic experiencing trauma therapyJournaling prompts to go deeper with this themeOvergiving is not who you are — it’s what you learned to stay connected and safe. Let’s gently begin to untangle that, together.You can find all ways to work with me — therapy, mentoring, energy healing, and retreats — at www.jasminschott.de

Overgiving Is NOT Who You AreHave you ever found yourself overgiving in relationships, constantly caring for others, hoping (maybe unconsciously) to be loved in return?In this episode, I explore what’s really behind this pattern and why overgiving, merging, or people-pleasing are not personality traits, but survival strategies rooted in emotional trauma.I share a client example, guide you through a short somatic practice to connect with your body and inner child, and explain how the nervous system adapts when love and attunement are missing in childhood.You'll hear:Why overgiving often masks a deep fear of not being lovable as you areHow to begin reconnecting with your needs and your worthInsights from somatic experiencing trauma therapyJournaling prompts to go deeper with this themeOvergiving is not who you are — it’s what you learned to stay connected and safe. Let’s gently begin to untangle that, together.You can find all ways to work with me — therapy, mentoring, energy healing, and retreats — at www.jasminschott.de

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