Pain, Purpose, and the Difference Between Healing and Spiritual Bypassing

If you’ve ever felt stuck between belief and reality, truth and effort, or meaning and pain, this conversation is for you.In this episode of Rabbi in the Hot Seat, Rabbi Dov Ber Cohen tackles the questions people ask when life doesn’t make sense anymore: trauma, numbness, faith, intimacy, and the pressure to find meaning too fast.00:32 – Why you don’t tell someone in trauma “everything happens for a reason”00:56 – What trauma actually is: fight, flight, freeze01:44 – Pain vs suffering in Judaism03:35 – “I feel nothing when I do mitzvot”04:46 – If Judaism is true, why don’t more people observe it?06:00 – Is Judaism all or nothing?07:33 – Sex, restraint, and emotional intimacy in Jewish marriage09:00 – When limits create deeper connectionRabbi Dov Ber brings Torah, humor, life experience, and a lot of heart to every answer, reminding us that growth is a journey, every step counts, and the goal is to move through Judaism with sincerity, joy, and trust in Hashem.