Parenting when you have ADHD

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Now I think when you have children, it is a massive adjustment for anybody. Whether you've got ADHD or not, suddenly your world is turned upside down. Your routine changes. The things that you rely on to make you comfortable, to make you cope with life have to change and are essentially taken away.

And you have to find new ways of doing life, which for anyone is really hard. But for someone with ADHD, actually those things are quite often the tools that you have to just cope, to manage. And it can be really devastating, which was my story. But what I wanted to ask you was that you didn't find out that you had ADHD until your children were much, much older.

So how do you reflect on those years now? With a lot of guilt and a lot of regret. And that's a terrible thing to say really because actually I look back on when my children were smaller with unbelievable fondness and my everything goes into colour when I think about those years. I loved those years with my children.

But I know that there were definitely times in my life when I'm not proud of how I behaved. I think the thing about parenting is it's fairly exhausting. That's the thing. It's exhausting.

You know, the sleepless nights, the exit you're suddenly, you know, thinking for three people rather than just yourself. And you weren't very good at thinking for just yourself and now you're having to think of them. But I realise looking back that all of those things that we've discussed in this podcast to do with ADHD, the emotional dysregulation, the overwhelm, the lack of planning, the messiness, all of those things come into how I think back on how I parented my children. And I know that there have been times in my life when I've let them down and that's when it feels really, really bad.

I mean, you know, I can laugh about the fact that I left my second child at school once when I was dropping my eldest off in a nursery. I'm not going to laugh about that. I shouldn't. But I laugh about it now.

My mother did the same. Isn't that interesting? My mum, who I suspect, has ADHD. My mum left me behind a sofa for a coffee morning and the woman who was hosting rang her and said, Eileen, did you know that your baby girl is sitting in a carry-cop behind a sofa?

So, you know, it's a generational thing, isn't it? ADHD is inherited and I'm sure my son will probably leave one of his children at some social event. That seems to work. And that's how you found out.

We talked about this before, but that's how you found out you had ADHD was that your son was diagnosed. Yeah, he was diagnosed. No, he was essentially diagnosed by a teacher at his school and I'd have a suspicion that I'd had it. I'd not pursued a diagnosis.

As I talked about before, it became a crisis point to do with perimenopause and all that kind of stuff. But it was only when Charlie went through the diagnostic process that I sat there in the room with him going, Oh my God, light bulb moment, light bulb moment, light bulb moment. And what is really interesting, of course, about that relationship between me and him is that we are parent and child with ADHD trying to cope within the space of that relationship. And actually, you know, I think we do pretty well under the circumstances and we love each other so much and we have an amazing relationship.

I love hanging up with him. But there have been times in the past when I know I have lost it with him because of course the strategies I use to fix things in my life don't necessarily work for him and I can see the way that his life is perhaps not working as well as it should needs to be fixed and I'm trying to fix mine already and suddenly I'm there badly dealing with my situation and having to deal with a second situation that is potentially even worse. But you know what? I think so many parents would echo that saying you're trying to sort out your children and then at the same time try to sort yourself out.

I suppose that what we said at the beginning is the spotlight is very different because we know that this is even worse or more extreme for us because we have ADHD. I'm interested in how you and your son sort of interact. Is it different I suppose having ADHD and parenting someone with ADHD because you know all those things that we struggle with with ADHD like you know patience and memory you need to give your children space and time especially if they have ADHD and yet that's even harder for you because you've got ADHD. Yeah I mean you know let's start with the good things.

I know he and I sometimes go on little trips together we travel together just the two of us and they are very very very special moments just the two of us because we like the same things we like spontaneity we like staying up late we like going out and I have an amazing relationship because we connect with each other on that level and we like the same things we love ball games and I can sit up late in the night after everyone else is gone to bed figuring out the puzzle of a really really tricky ball game we love it. I think where the combination of two family members with ADHD becomes really tricky is in the teaching of life skills that everyone else tells me are really important life skills like having a tiny bedroom now forgive me but when I walk into his bedroom and it looks like a bomb has hit it and it's a foot deep in last week's clothing I don't necessarily see it and I don't necessarily feel as critical as I should because I don't care about those things as much as society tells me I should maybe that's okay maybe that's okay but then at the back of my mind there's that little voice saying but you as a mum as a good parent should be teaching your child the executive functioning to be able to do those things and know to do it and every so often that voice gets louder and kicks me into action and he and I will go and play his bedroom together and you know I'm happy to do that but I do I worry that he will leave our little nest and he'll go out into the world and non-neurodo first people will look at him and go how do you live? because he lives differently so what? I think what you're articulating is the pressure the stress and ultimately the guilt that all parents feel and I'm not belittling what you're saying I'm totally agreeing with you for me it was all about and I said earlier it's about changing the way that you manage yourself so I mean I didn't know that I had ADHD when my children were born and I've said before in previous episodes talking to you that I wanted to be able to look after them I wanted to manage and I just couldn't cope and I realised when I found out I had ADHD that I managed my ADHD by taking breaks by getting away from people by bursts of anger at inanimate objects was one of the big ways that I dealt with my internal stress by not taking it out on the children you deflect it this is how I'd always be so I'd always been angry at inanimate objects I'd be angry at myself I'd be swearing loads all of those things I just described to be clear for the avoidance of doubt are not appropriate around small children so suddenly I'm in this situation going you can't suddenly shout and swear and scream and you're going to have to find a way and honestly right now it's not appropriate to disappear for six hours you're going to have to find a way to manage and spend so hard time well that was kind of a crisis point because you know we talk about having a tank full of stress and so then you bring a child into the situation and exhaustion and exhaustion and I was exploding and it would be anger it would be crashing it would be just you know ultimately it was depression and I think what I learned through my therapy was learning what was causing my stress so my ADHD and how I manage my life and trying to deal with some of that so that I had more capacity for my children it was quite a big thing to learn but it has really worked I usually think there's a perfectionism that comes with ADHD it's a strange thing but it certainly seems to be that you don't want it for me anyway I was about to say I think it does for you I don't have it I wish I did I wish I did I wish I did have more sense of perfectionism then I might make more of an effort but I don't you see I wonder because you talk about wanting to be tidy for me quite often it's wanting to make sure that the children are here on time and we've done this routine exactly as it should be and that they're looked after and everything's done to the letter and you sort of have to let that go with kids one of the ways I manage myself is to be really organised well I am organised with kids and I do think routine and structure really helps them but saying we're going to have tea at six o'clock we're going to be having a bath at quarter past six we'll be upstairs at half past six yes it's a great idea but you've got to allow for the fact that someone may be on the floor or that someone might suddenly run off or you know yeah life gets in the way and you have to adjust your mind and your brain and say okay this is how I've always managed myself I can't manage like that anymore I'm going to have to try and accept things are going to be different can I cope with that well initially I couldn't and then I said okay what you need to do is try and address some of that stress inside and for me it was about getting a balance so again ADHD hyperfocus go and go and go I've got these children this is my project this is what I'm doing okay but if you only spend time with the children if you only look after the children that tends to end badly too so for me it was making sure that I'm still socialising making sure that I'm exercising making sure I'm getting sleep making sure that I'm getting a balance to life so that you know I'm on an even keel then when I'm with my kids my ADHD to be honest as much as possible is managed and I suppose the other thing and this might sound trite but I do think it's the biggest thing I learn with my kids is that do you know what I'm going to get it wrong I'm going to get it wrong probably at least once a day absolutely yeah absolutely I do think there are so many questions though for people with ADHD of sort of you know what are we passing on to our children and how are we getting it right and that's what it boils down to at the end isn't it yeah and I think for people with children with ADHD it's like how can we help them and you know what different approaches do we need to take and to answer some of those questions Dr Joanne Reardon who's an educational psychologist spoke to us about schools a few episodes ago she's back to talk to us about parenting with ADHD Hi Joanne thank you so much for coming back to talk to us again no thank you so much for having me I'm really looking forward to this we had such a great response to the last time you were with us and we wanted to dig a little bit deeper into what that relationship is outside school actually between ADHDers and their children some of whom obviously might have been diagnosed with ADHD as well and I would like to start with the guilt it's something Sam and I talk about a lot the guilt of being a parent with ADHD and the mess that you can make of it sometimes because of the challenges ADHD brings the emotional dysregulation the messiness being forgetful all of these different things they are huge challenges in our personal lives my god when it comes to raising children they can make you you make a peg at the job of parenting sometimes you feel like you do absolutely and I think you know it brings up to all new challenges again doesn't it because you're in a new context parent how much of an effect do those issues have on the children do you think does ADHD make someone a worse parent do you think I would say definitely not but I think it presents with challenges and strengths I think the main strength is often when I see parents and we're talking about their child who typically either has an ADHD diagnosis themselves or would like to meet that criteria to often ones in families parents talk about the guilt that they feel that perhaps for a genetic reason their child's got the ADHD and I often say actually you're our best resource in the system in the child's life because we can learn from what's been useful to you we can normalise ADHD for a child by the fact it's already in their family we can look at what's worked for you and really help the child understand themselves and that's a massive benefit but on the flip side I think the main difficulty for parents who are ADHD as themselves is that they can often feel less regulated and more dysregulated because you know kids are chaotic themselves busy and they throw up all sorts of extra challenges that we weren't for living so we have like we're chaotic and busy so are they and what can happen is you get this dysregulation and what we now know from like brain research is that you know this co-regulation of children is a two-way process so if we're calm then there are literally new and new ones in our children's brain that borrow that calm and it helps to calm them down and manage and regulate their emotions so I think that's one thing as an ADHD parent which we particularly care a lot is you know how do we manage our emotions and help ourselves stay regulated so that our children can borrow our calm oh gosh that's so interesting so it's about not wicking them up it's about learning to calm down to be quieter to be more present but without having to be joking and make a big song and dance about it it's just that if we're stressed then they're going to feed off that stress or if we respond to their kind of dysregulation and irritate and stress ourselves it feeds it up higher so it's about how do we in those moments of stress make sure that we're really consciously thinking about how do we maintain our calm so that they can borrow our calm and I think that's where it can be trickier just because of our difficulties as an ADHD to think about but if we're aware of that and we're consciously trying to think about like this is a stressful point like do my deep breathing like leave it as don't get too entrenched in the problem keep myself calm if needed leave the room two minutes and then come back and calm my child once we know this and we can consciously put steps in place it's easier but that takes learning and no one can do that all the time that's really interesting because what we were talking about earlier was self-awareness and being a big part of us managing our ADHD and certainly for me it's about being present it's being you know whether it's being mindful whatever it is just being there for your children one of the big things for me about ADHD is partly about managing my ADHD but just generally in life there's so much of me which is in my head thoughts racing thinking about myself thinking about what I'm going to do just thoughts everywhere it almost creates a selfishness and sometimes I have to remind myself you know what you need to come out of your head and be there for the children I think that can be quite a big challenge definitely I think that's also in the today's world the difficulty lots of parents feel even without ADHD but it's specifically a challenge for us because it happens even more and like you say it's about learning yourself so I suppose that too but I know that things like being out in nature with my family A it's not so easy to talk along on my phone B the sort of from the seducy side I find it much more grounding to be out in nature and so on so trying to find those activities and we make sure we do like the family nature walk once a week because it's somewhere where I'm less essentially in my head in the same quality time my children's noise is less irritating when there's like you know fields around them or they're not recognised so further climbing a tree instead and therefore you know it's thinking about how can we create an environment that is enabling versus causing more difficulties I see I really enjoy spending time with my children but you know it's about getting a balance and I think one of the things for me is throwing myself into it and saying what I'm doing today is playing with my children what I'm doing right now is whatever task is there or eating with them it's just sort of it's being present in what I'm supposed to be doing and also being a parent with ADHD can make that a lot of fun to be around you know I would argue I know you Sam I know you're good fun to be around I've been able to work with him for decades and I know not necessarily talking about my own parenting style but I know friends of mine who have ADHD who are also parents that is a wonderful characteristic often isn't it it's spontaneous there's energy there are new ideas rushing in all the time and it can make that relationship enormously positive and fun and I do think there are upsides to being a parent with ADHD absolutely I totally agree on that energy side when you're having that really energetic day and having a chance to be more creative and also things like you know our folks are children quite hard because children are still learning skills and you know we have that empathy in terms of some things that's still quite challenging for us yeah we're problem solvers we know how to kind of come up with solutions for things yeah creative solutions and things outside the box so there's a lot of strength about like you said that self-awareness also being self-aware of our strengths and so I'm looking for what you're saying Sam that sometimes some ADHDs have a tendency to be quite hard on themselves so you'll also remind yourself of those strengths of positive that come in because that's absolutely true I want to get respect from both of you because you're both in a position to answer this I mean you are you're both ADHD both have children with ADHD what are some of the different challenges where you've got two neurodiverse people in this situation you've got a parent and a child what are the different challenges well I mean you know from my perspective my son was diagnosed quite late he was 18 I was through the parenting he was an adult actually by the time he was diagnosed but let's not pretend I'm not still parenting him or my husband and I are not still parenting him because he is a young adult with ADHD and it's going to be some time before he is in a position to kind of leave the nest let's put it that way I definitely think I definitely think there are frustrations because I am tired just looking after me and sometimes presented with a grown man who is also struggling with his effective functions i am exhausted and i suddenly realize i'm spent and i've got nothing left because i've spent it all on me trying to figure out how to make life work and that's hard do you does that does that ring any bells with you yeah absolutely i think that's exactly it's me but obviously everyone who's made hd is unique but you present similar challenges and therefore it's extra exhausting i think on the flip side of that we have such empathy with our children so for example when someone's younger knowing that for him that effective functioning of just sequencing putting his clothes on in the correct order was so hard and so i used to do something simple where i used to lay you close in a pile and the bottom of the pile was the last thing to put on top of the pile was the first thing to put on and every day i lay that pile knowing that when he goes to parties and he's regulated from in that soft way i'm also in like sedentary overload exhausted hell and sort of you know understanding that you know that it's not just him perceiving it to be um you know irritating that it's too crowded i generally know it feels like exhausting you to spend your energy it is really difficult to maintain that regulation and therefore i've got that empathy i know that i like to sort of put you outside for a walk or slowly go to the toilet and wash my hands to give myself that time out of that situation so i can suggest that same kind of thing for him but i think the challenge that you're experiencing the same difficulties is also the strength because it helps us to consult around how can we adapt the environment and share information with our child to help them better manage that situation as well yeah over christmas he we had a full house over christmas of extended family and he came and found me and grabbed my wrist and just looked at me and said my social battery is depleted and left and he was gone for about half an hour of course there are cousins galore that he was supposed to be entertaining and uh half an hour later i went upstairs and i said okay is your social battery full now because i need you to come downstairs because mine is also to get it and i need the support yeah yeah i can come downstairs but there definitely was that that understanding between two adhds that this was an overwhelming situation and we were both trying to handle it in the best way that we could but that's a great sense of self-awareness it's great for him to be able to recognize that and for you two to be in that together i would say what about for parents who you know don't have adhd what are you know that's a journey that they're starting if they find out their child has adhd at a young age what are some of the things that you have to take into account what are some of the first steps to saying right how do i parent my child differently that's a really good point i think we're changing how we're thinking about this at the moment so historically we took more of an outside in view so we're looking at these young age years and thinking about the things you can really see are often not always you know behavior difficulty difficulty so let's focus on that luckily and really positively that is changing at the moment um not everywhere but lots of people and we're especially the university paradigm kind of building in momentum we're taking a very much insight out view so it's about parents trying to understand their child's internal experience the fact that it can be harder for young children to relax and regulate their emotions so what can we do to support them there the fact that you know research tells us that adhd children are more likely to see criticism in their day than a neurotypical child so how do you make sure we're building time for their strengths to shine to compensate for that and build their self-esteem and that could be something obvious like you know a sport that they do and maintain a club for that or it might be that they're fantastic at a game like minecraft and we're going to put some time aside for them to teach us how to play it and for them to really take that expert role it's for parents to think about if there are any sensory processing differences their children are looking out for that and there's professionals involved seeking that advice and making sure that we're adapting to that in addition to thinking about child's internal experience it's about thinking about our home as like an environment that our children are in and we're out and about as a family how can we make sure that environment is an enabling environment for our child so for example if you know that like i'll say about getting dressed and you know they're stacking up new clothing or at parties if that's difficult talking to your child about some time out just having a rest break if after school they come home and they can't they kind of get that restraint collapse they can't cope with any more demand they're coming quite tricky they're quite dysregulated just thinking about how can i calm them at that point rather than telling them off and not putting their shoes away their coats away is it best just to give them a snack let them engage in that activity to switch off and perhaps later talk about you know before you got there do you mind putting your coats away um you know how do we kind of fit as in neighbouring environments but that's exhausting jan for an adhd parent i i hear you and i don't mean to jump in but i mean for any parent yeah it's an adjustment it is it is and i totally hear you and i i look back on the kind of environment that our home was and it was a messy house and it was you know diy projects were left to fester my husband is also um nd as well he's on the autistic spectrum we think so we have we have this sort of what's what outsiders might think of as an odd home in that certain things are prioritized over others and there are you know cheap train towers board games but you know the wash basket is overflowing and it's that it's that it's that thing of thinking ahead and i i would love to be able to go back knowing that i have this and wondering whether you know how i might plan things differently like you were talking about earlier about you know putting those mitigations in place so you are less overwhelmed so i might have done things better because it's exhausting you know i love your idea about putting clothes in a pile and getting ready but i do wonder if the night before i'd have been too exhausted to do it i don't know the thing is i guess there's two things to this a i think you've hit the nail on the head when you said like your family life is different to typical and you prioritize different things well so that's it our families do look different you know i definitely have stuff that's been on my works on my kitchen for about two years you know that i've been put away and it's been like god it's not good yeah i do put my children's clothes out in that order because i know that's going to need to less issues in the morning where there are really ways that we're trying to put it on a different way and so on it's also about prioritizing family well-being and because actually my children are less regulated then we're more like to be regulated and calmer as well and to be having enjoyment and positive time with our family so it's about prioritizing things like keep everyone calm rather than other things and that might look different to a typical family but it's about not trying to maintain the status quo as well as being all this extra stuff because that is totally possible i think that's a really important point i think you know it sounds like a broken record because i said it almost every episode but i think it is about giving yourself a break and actually trying to trying to fit yourself into a mold of trying to say we have to do things in a typical way i mean that is the whole conversation around adhd isn't it so what works for you what works for you and what works for us might be different but ultimately if you get to a situation that works for your family it doesn't matter what else things no i you know again looking back it's funny how you retrofit so much isn't it when you look back post-diagnosis there was a mobile there were a number of weeks um when charlie first started going to school he'd been about five so he'd be in reception and you know we know now that adhd can sometimes come with lots of sensory issues and talks about his in the past charlie hated wearing socks now i had gone through schools that all had very strict uniform policies and i was very very firm that in the morning charlie at the very least should put socks on with his shoes before he went to school and i would carry a frothing child to school about half a mile to school and he would squirm and scream and i would sort of drop him at the door of the reception classroom and after about three weeks of turning up with his child who was absolutely beside himself trying to tell me that something was terribly wrong i mean insisting that he wore socks i remember his classroom teacher coming to the door to sort of take him and saying i don't know you could just try not putting the socks on and i didn't think that was allowed he was in the school with no uniform they didn't care if he would turn up in flip-flops it would have been fine and probably not fine but you know the following morning he didn't put socks on he walked to school by my side and went into school and was fine and it was i had to be taught that it was okay to let things go but to listen and to try to understand from his point of view rather than this strict decree from society that every child must turn up looking a certain way when they present at school and it's hard i think definitely and like i was saying before like you know it sounds a lot to be like right we didn't understand our children's perspective and make accommodations for that but actually like you said when you did that and you didn't wear the socks you actually had a less stressful morning so actually it takes a bit of energy but it takes less energy and stress in the end and less risk of burnout and in fact i got like a parenting program or a two-hour parenting program the difficulty parenting program that's kind of like the fundamental message really that you know we need to do things differently when we've got a neurodiverse or neurodivergent family because trying to sort of like keep up with expectations just leaves us in burnout and all the family dysregulated but doing it differently can be sort of more positive but i also wonder you mentioned about us all and feeling like having socks on i think sometimes as well as parents when we're doing it differently we can worry how that's perceived by others as well particularly because often you know our children's needs are private and someone's not going to be aware and you know we're worrying how we're being judged it's about finding your tribe or people in similar situations because you know that's a hard thing for anybody to feel like we're being judged and you know for doing things differently it's interesting talking about the different stages of parenting because of course we know ADHD children actually take much longer to mature their brains aren't fully mature until 25 26 and one of the crisis points for some kids is we now know when they go off to university we've had an email in from a listener and she has a daughter who's awaiting diagnosis that they're pretty sure that she's got ADHD the daughter is 19 she's gone off to university she had a breakdown last year and she's gone off to uni and of course around them they've got various family members just saying oh for goodness sake just let this child make mistakes and she'll learn from making her mistakes and she said she had a light bulb moment listening along to the podcast and then asking her husband to do the same where they both realized that with this particular daughter who's probably got ADHD they can't do that they need to put certain support structures in place to look after her and so they're now going to plan to go along every other week to make sure that she's got clean washing she's got enough food that she's eating okay that she's sleeping well and giving her the support that she needs and I know I can speak from experience as the mum of a child who is also at university that you do encounter so many people who will turn around to you and go well I just think that you're wanting him helicopter parenting he just needs to learn to fail and I know that actually it's more than failing when things fall apart for a child with ADHD especially when they go to university that's a really difficult time for some kids isn't it yeah definitely I mean it's about being a new parent it's when you're going to those new environments where you present a new challenge it's really overwhelming it's a new routine you might be cooking for the first time time for yourself planning all those essays I mean I remember when I went to uni that was such a stressful time and definitely you know I don't know why parents watching this I didn't know that point I was an ADHD but I think there's the change of environment you're away from a support network and then all these new demands it's really hard and it's fantastic that they're practically thinking and I think this could be a misconception as well that somehow oh well you know these young people need to learn to do something you know we put them in the environment they'll learn actually no our brains work in a different way we perceive things differently it's not like a gap in we need to be put in a situation we'll learn it this happens through life and I think the difference as well as being the ADHD parent and where it's a positive and we have better understanding is I know I'm a psychologist I'm a teacher you know I'm a mum of three kids and yet those difficulties still present it's not about me you know being too monocodled and not having the opportunity to develop those skills just those things are really hard for me but other areas you know are a strength and there's a lot of things that my husband does that I don't do because of my identity and so on so I think it's great that I have a family that actively thinks about how can we put supports in place to know what can the university of the world because they will be there to actively support that young person and re-listening that young person's view about what they want and how they can be best supported.

What did you call it the inside out approach? Yes. I may not personally but yeah that idea of really just that insight and also the importance of allowing our young people to advocate for themselves you know right from very young age because now we appreciate ADHD is for life you know it's not just in childhood and therefore the more we can build skills in our children about how to ask what they need think about what they need and for us the model to them that their views are important and we will listen to those and respond to those the more confident they'll be when they go possibly to university or start their first day at work or have a child themselves to be able to advocate for what they need at that point as well. But it's about how we gracing ourselves as well that's what I'm to say after we need to be quite negative about ourselves and we need to think about you know all the positives we bring as well and that just normalising yes we've got difficulties but we've got so much to offer to that parenting experience.

Agreed. Agreed. It has been a pleasure once again to talk to you. Thank you so much for all the expertise that you bring to this particularly nutty subject I think you know there's so much wrapped up in it in the world of ADHD but thank you so much for joining us.

Thank you so much. Have a good day. Oh do you know what? I was getting a ton of dopamine hits off.

You've been enjoying that conversation weren't you? She's just so interesting. She's got so many good tips about how to make things better but also her positivity. I think so much of it is about changing what's hardwired assumptions that people have about ADHD even those with ADHD assumptions that we grow up with assumptions that we get from school from elsewhere that you then feed into your children.

A phrase came to me while we were doing that that we are we're neurodiverse but we spend so much time and effort trying to be typical. Ha yes absolutely. It's self-defeating. It is.

It just seems to me actually if we recognise that there needs to be different patterns different approaches for people with ADHD whether as a parent or as a child that self-awareness again is the key isn't it? Absolutely and I especially loved her inside out approach to parenting. It's about putting yourself in the head of that tiny person that teenager that tiny four-year-old who is still struggling to do their washing and forgiving them for that and just being more patient and waiting for them to grow up because we know people with ADHD are brilliant and one day they are going to figure it out. We want your thoughts your opinions on this question.

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