Passing the Naughty Monkey Back with Dr Amit Sharma

Dr Amit Sharma joins to discuss the effects of taking on too many of other people’s burdens and how you can prevent them from weighing you down.Episode Highlights[05:28] What Is A Naughty Monkey?Naughty monkeys are burdens that clients carry.These burdens sometimes stay and weigh down on professionals like doctors and lawyers.[08:58] What Happens If You Don’t Give The Naughty Monkeys Back?We become drained and burdened.We end up developing a cycle wherein patients unburden their issues, and they weigh us down.[10:59] What Really Burdens UsWe are burdened by ownership and responsibilities.Our client’s naughty monkeys are not for us to own or take away.Stay professional and set a boundary.[18:16] What Do We Do When We Fear Complaints?Complaints may lead to us overly taking responsibility because we want to please and be liked.[22:23] How to Take Off the Role of the RescuerIf we can’t give the victim a solution for their problem, we are put into the persecutor role and receive complaints.Understanding the consultation and dynamics at play help us unpack and change the way we consult. [24:36] How to Spot If You Are in a Rescuer RoleSigns of being a rescuer include struggling with managing your workload and personal dissatisfaction with work.[29:59] The Cost of Saying Yes to EverythingPatients are not empowered to manage their health.It can cost you your colleagues, other clinicians and your patients.[34:16] The Superhero ComplexThe hero complex is using prescriptions to solve people’s problems.Medication creates dependency. [40:59] How To Hand Back Naughty MonkeysUnderstand the actual issues during the consultation.Make it clear that you and the patient are in a partnership.Seek the perspective of someone outside work or with a different personality.Seek other avenues of supportEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksPermission to Thrive CPD club for doctorsMedics Money PodcastConnect with Amit: LinkedInE27: On pandemic stress and anxietyE36: On COVID fatigueE63: How to Survive Even When Times are ToughMentioned in this episode:FrogXtra Gold Join the Frog podcast community🟦 Learn More About Our Training