People-Pleasing & Boundaries: How to Stop Saying “I’m Fine” & Start Speaking Up

If you’ve ever said “I’m fine” when you’re anything but, or said “yes” when every fibre of your being wanted to say “no”, this episode is for you.People-pleasing can quietly erode your ability to self-advocate, and you might not even realise you’re doing it.Luan is joined by empowerment coach Belinda Stark to explore why it’s so hard to speak up, how to spot the signs that you’re slipping into people-pleasing mode, and what it really looks like to set boundaries that honour your needs without guilt or apology.It’s a warm, insightful and laugh-out-loud conversation about taking up space, letting go of guilt, and learning when to give fewer f**ks - so you might want to pop your headphones in if little ones are around.In this episode we explore:What people-pleasing looks likeWhy saying “I’m fine” can be a red flagThe guilt many women feel around setting boundariesBelinda’s NFA method: a simple tool for asking for what you needHow to soften your “no” (without diluting it)Why pausing before you respond can shift everythingThe power of a hand on your heart and how to stay composed in tough conversationsWhen choosing not to speak up can still be an act of self-advocacyFor the links to all the resources mentioned in this show, go to the episode blog page.Connect with Luan:Follow Luan on InstagramGet Luan's free SSASy guide to Self-AdvocacySign up for Luan's NewsletterCheck out Luan's websiteDisclaimerCREDITS:Host & Producer: Luan Lawrenson-Woods, Self-Health AdvocateSound engineering: Paddy from Goosewing Sounds Ltd (UK) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.