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EPISODE · Apr 24, 2025 · 52 MIN

People Pleasing, Boundaries, and Fear of Conflict

from Gay Men Going Deeper · host Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood

Do you find yourself putting other people’s needs ahead of your own? Struggle to set boundaries? Feel responsible for keeping the peace even when it costs you your authenticity? In this episode, gay therapist Michael Pezzullo joins Michael to go deeper into the roots of people pleasing—especially why so many gay men fall into this pattern. We’ll explore how people pleasing shows up in everyday life, why it’s so hard to stop, and how the fear of conflict and rejection keeps us from showing up fully in our relationships. We’ll also discuss: How to recognize when you’re people pleasing (and why it’s not the same as being kind) The impact people pleasing has on your self-confidence and relationships Why gay men are especially prone to it How to handle the fear of disappointing others What you can do to finally break the cycle If you’re ready to stop performing for approval and start living with more authenticity, this episode is for you. Today's Guest: Michael Pezzullo Website Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Website Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the

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