Perfectionism vs. Confidence

Do you read every email three times before hitting send? Does one typo in your slide deck make your stomach drop? Does that harsh self talk kick in saying things like “I always mess something up”? If perfectionism at work is burning you out, this one’s for you. As women, so many of us learned that being professional means being perfect: no mistakes, no misspeaking, no bad ideas. But trying to be perfect costs us more than we realize. In this video, I’m sharing three things I’ve learned about perfectionism and confidence, plus a very real (and slightly embarrassing) story about what happened when I sent an unfinished newsletter to my whole mailing list. Spoiler Alert: I didn’t spiral this time. This isn’t about “just think positive.” It’s about shifting your mindset from “no mistakes allowed” to something a lot more flexible, and changing your self talk so it helps you move forward instead of holding you back. Because real empowerment isn’t never making a mistake. It’s trusting yourself when you do. In this video, you’ll learn: * 🌟The three hidden costs of perfectionism: your energy, shame, and confidence * 🌟How chasing perfection actually undermines your confidence * 🌟The mindset shift that makes room for mistakes, and why confidence needs that room to grow * 🌟Where that shame really comes from, and why your critical self talk is just old information you play on repeat * 🌟Three simple things to try the next time perfectionism grabs the wheel. If you found this episode helpful, I invite you to subscribe to The Inner Ally. That way you can receive future articles, videos, and podcast episodes directly to your inbox. 🌈💌 If you know a woman who rereads her emails three times before hitting send, share this video with her. 💖 About me: I’m Erin Fisher, a retired mental health therapist turned mental health coach. I help professional women change their self talk, turning that mean inner critic into an inner ally, so they can stop second-guessing themselves and step up with confidence. For me, that’s what empowerment looks like. And yes, that’s Fred, my phrenology head and co-host. This Video/Podcast offers educational and reflective content only. This is not clinical therapy, individualized coaching, or professional advice. If you are navigating mental health concerns that require individualized support, depending on severity, please reach out to a licensed mental health practitioner or connect with me about coaching. Get full access to The Inner Ally at erinfishercoaching.substack.com/subscribe