Please Don’t Say “Calm Down,” Say This Instead

Send us Fan MailWe share a practical framework for de‑escalation that respects dignity, reduces sensory overload, and keeps people safe. From language swaps to sensory tools and safety protocols, we map out how churches can become truly accessible, not just well‑intentioned.• scale of disability attendance gap and perception mismatch• knowing the person to spot early escalation• proactive sensory supports and spaces• movement and game‑based regulation tools• what to say instead of calm down• non‑confrontational response during fight or flight• safety protocols when strategies fail• debriefing the community without stigma• partnering with caregivers to build future plans• commitment to an accessible gospel for everyoneIf you want to dive deeper on your own, you can check out the Indispensable-People blog or my books on Amazon called The Indispensable Kid or Gospel Accessibility and the Indispensable People