Porn, Performative Sex, Consent, & Masculinity: A Guy's POV -Part 1 (#54)

Porn, hookup culture, consent, and masculinity shape how young men experience sex—one college man shares his story. Pornography, performative sex, and toxic masculinity deeply influence how young men approach relationships, intimacy, and identity, yet few men speak openly about their impact. In this raw and powerful episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Garrett, a college junior from Texas, to explore the hidden realities of modern hookup culture, consent, and masculinity from a male perspective. Garrett candidly shares how early porn exposure, media messages, and cultural double standards shaped his views on sex, relationships, and self-worth. He opens up about the pressure of performative sex, experiences with coercion and consent, and how stereotypes around masculinity made emotional vulnerability and honest communication difficult. This is part one of a two-part series examining the intersection of sex, porn addiction, culture, and identity. Garrett's story offers rare insight into the male experience and invites parents, educators, and young adults to rethink how we talk about consent, masculinity, emotional needs, and healthy relationships. Listeners will gain insight into: What "performative sex" is and how porn and pop culture fuel it. The impact of pornography addiction and early sexual exposure. Why parent-child conversations about sex and mental health matter. Coercion, consent, and cultural double standards. How masculinity stereotypes prevent vulnerability and healthy intimacy. The role of therapy, self-awareness, and emotional growth. This candid episode will resonate with anyone seeking to better understand the complexities of modern masculinity, consent, and intimacy.   Timestamps 00:00 Trigger Warning 00:15 Sneak Peek At What's To Come 00:59 Introduction to Performative Sex 02:41 Impact of Pornography on Relationships 03:43 Parental Influence and Early Exposure 07:21 Cultural Messaging and Its Effects 18:25 Double Standards and Sexual Assault on Men 29:38 Navigating Relationships and Sexual Expectations 32:13 Navigating Relationship Dynamics 33:11 Parental Influence and Personal Realizations 34:25 The Importance of Emotional and Physical Connection 35:21 Addressing Insecurities in Relationships 48:34 The Need for Relationship Education 50:20 Therapy and Mental Health Stigma 55:10 Concluding Thoughts and Future Insights   Resources Mentioned ●      Kinsey Institutehttps://kinseyinstitute.orgResearch organization exploring sex, gender, and reproduction ●      National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)https://www.rainn.orgFree, confidential support for sexual assault survivors: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) ●      Suicide & Crisis Lifelinehttps://988lifeline.orgCall or text 988 for 24/7 mental health support in the U.S.