Positive The F*ck Up

Send us Fan MailOkay, hear me out before you accuse me of trying to turn into your grandmother’s motivational fridge magnet.This episode is not about pretending everything is amazing while your life is on fire. I’m not asking you to slap on a fake smile, repeat “I am a wealth magnet” seventeen times, and spiritually bypass your way through reality. In fact, I talk about why that kind of toxic positivity can actually make you feel worse.But dude… I also think a lot of us have swung way too far in the other direction.We are marinating in negativity right now. Doom scrolling. Catastrophizing. Convincing ourselves that menopause is an apocalypse, the world is collapsing, and one missed workout means we’re physically declining in real time. And honestly? I think we need to positive the f*ck up a little.In this episode, I unpack the difference between old-school affirmation culture and evidence-based mindset work like CBT. We talk about why all-or-nothing thinking keeps people stuck in fitness, weight loss, and life in general. I share stories from clients who think they’re either “being good” or completely blowing it, and why that mindset backfires every single time.I also go on a bit of a rant about menopause marketing because apparently women in their 30s are now being called “peri-preppers,” which honestly makes me want to launch myself into the sea.Mostly, this episode is about choosing a more balanced reality. Not fake positivity. Not denial. Just refusing to feed your brain a constant diet of helplessness and doom.Because yes, hard things exist. Negative emotions are part of being human. But so are hope, progress, resilience, strength, joy, and possibility.And if the quality of your life is the quality of the emotions you feel most often… then maybe it’s worth asking yourself what emotional climate you’re living in every day.What’s Inside:Why toxic positivity and toxic negativity are both trapsThe difference between affirmations and evidence-based mindset shiftsHow all-or-nothing thinking sabotages fitness and weight lossMy honest thoughts on menopause marketing and identity-based thinkingLook, I’m not saying you need to fake positivity or pretend life isn’t hard.I’m saying your brain is constantly collecting evidence for whatever story you feed it most often. And a lot of us are feeding ourselves a nonstop stream of doom, decline, and helplessness.You can acknowledge hard things without making them your entire identity.So here’s my question for you:Where in your life do you need to positive the f*ck up a little?Let me know on Instagram. Mentioned in This Episode:LolalomusicAlthea CrimminsOonagh Duncan on InstagramFit Feels GoodLeave me a voice note on Speak Pipe!