“POTENTIAL V. PERFORMANCE” pt. 1

Greetings greetings welcome to another episode of truth the power and your host tires tonight We will soon be joined by snakes once again. We'll be talking about Potential versus performance. This will be the first episode of that of a three-point series and We're gonna get deeper guys. So listen up Hey, thanks to Snicks.

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So tonight I want to talk about you know performance versus potential. Okay The reason why I want to do that was a proper Facebook post You know didn't really get much love and I can't understand why but you know when and I think sometimes I don't know I want to get one perspective as well And that's what you just are you coming in as man. It's why relationships go sometimes we they are potential rather than performance We they women that could potentially be a good mate or potentially financially stable, but we don't really look at the woman that's already performing in all of that space With it say Performance rather than a potential and you would get better results. Hey true.

Okay. Is it working for you? Okay, so Wasn't working for you. Okay, so who measures the potential?

Well, I'm so you measuring potential off of what I wish you think you feel No, no, I'm measuring performance now. I'm not measuring potential anymore. Well when you were measuring potential, how could how could that be measured? I'll measure potential up of just you know job security.

I've made to measure potential of How often she come for me? How can she display measuring characteristics? How often she? Or what her goals were like, okay, right?

Okay, so we were dating off of and you know what? I think women Get off potential sometimes also So I can understand you know, but it's just potentially so hard to be measured these days So I don't think that that is probably a good thing to do They I mean you have all the potential in the world, but if you're not proactive I mean it never goes anywhere So you're just a performance. How was that being measured? Performances do you have all those cataroses already and are you willing to?

Are you not even willing to are you already? Performance or retire heights And I feel like that's the way me that is blagming that we should be going at the Rather than bringing the display quote unquote potential. Do you agree with that? Okay, I know Because no, okay, so You should be asking the question.

Well, are you dating above your age or below your age? I just need to know before I come in Below your age Okay, so yes Okay, so when I feel like women work it works better if we do date above our age But I also need people to start dating in In their own perspective meaning I'm just gonna stay from a woman point of view like women like to say I want to die with a car I want him to have a good job. I want him to be a good father I want him to make excellent out of dollars a year. I want him to have his own house I want him to have you know all these things right before She will be this person but my question always so women is or you even Measure measure up to be with a person like that.

Okay. I'm gonna use myself for example. Okay My kids are like everything to me, right? People will say that my kids are like smother me all the time.

Okay, so when people say well I don't never see you dating seriously and this is my reason for not dating seriously I don't feel like I'm ready for the person that I know That would be best for me. So I prefer not to even date Okay, my son still comes getting in the big Okay, so that's the issue all on on its own with dating anyone I don't want to say I want to man with this and I want to man with that and I want to man with this When I have not yet measured up to the woman for him yet. So I just prefer not to date So I don't want to bring anyone to my home that does not understand that I stay have a child getting in the Big with me that may be an issue. I may want to a gentleman with two jobs in the business.

Okay I'm still trying to get my business off the ground. So I can't just expect this person to have all these things I think we need to just really date According to what is your capable of doing stop jumping out of stating that you need all of this from a man Well, you're not even able to give that man that same thing in return. That's a property. There you go, right?

So me So you just say that something you said that you're not ready for the man for that manicure that you want Yeah, so are you saying that at this point in time that you're not on it? You don't feel like that you're capable of you know a Formality capable. I'm definitely capable. But when I'm ready, I will and you know sometimes you have to meet the man So please give me that push but I'm not just there yet.

It was a lesson. I have Just not speaking of you know material things But I have put myself in a place in like where I'm comfortable I have all the things that I need to state that I'm good today Okay, as far as what I would expect him to have his own house his own car his own income You know, but it's just some things that I'm just I'm not ready to cook every day I'm sorry my kids don't require me cook every day I'm not ready to give just X amount of time to somebody every day all the that's what I'm saying is things like that people just Like to jump into relationships and when you say performance versus potential I feel like I'm saying who's measuring the potential because you can have all the potential in the world But until you put your best foot forward then it doesn't you can have to be just have potential But don't they somebody as you ready? That's ready But also as me we need to stop it. Y'all need to stop expecting way too much for what y'all have to Y'all want to grow a good body, but ain't nobody working out with her Y'all want to go to the credit But your credit is not a support I mean if you want to be on we would find out that you can work with this person and all these things together Then that's one thing I just don't like when people put all these this list of things that they have to have out of their partner And they don't even have at least five of the same qualities Hmm.

So you say that people should have at least five for those folks those are the list that you got drawn up for your person That's the same thing you want at least five I just And when you say you're dating Under you right Under my age group I'm like 19 29. That's my cut off here. But they're also myself in the room You know I was about to get up on you No What type of woman are you actually Are you trying to find a woman that you can mold into the person that you want her to be? Oh, you know the thing is I got this bias and obviously this, you know, maybe I could be wrong for same things Maybe I'm not politically correct, but hell, you know, this is a thing This is my thing like I feel like women there are much on that are younger they come with a badge What because they they have an experience as much as women they're older.

I Feel like they just come with a You know what I'm translating that for you. It's more easy to get over on someone is dead each I'm not trying to go home. Oh, the woman knows what she wants It's not gonna accept anything less than that and it's gonna be very firm on her decisions Our younger woman is gonna be able to be molded in so what you make her to be and guess what they come with a lot of baggage Because guess what that's the one that wants to fall out of the nails and he had done every time I turn around That's the ones we haven't even decided on a career yet That's the person that's gonna be always asking for something because they're not even settled in so they own cells yet Right, but when we talk about like I'm getting a little done and feet on and stuff like that, you know, that's a part of maintaining a woman Isn't it it's part of maintaining. So do you feel obligated that you have to do that?

That she's not obligated to do that Yes, because my doctor maintainer she is a representation of me. Okay, I actually like that answer So once he goes out and she's looking regularly, that's a part of me looking regularly But if she goes out and she's on point, that's me being on point That's showing that I'm just learning characteristic art that I'm working towards bettering her lifestyle How however I expect what I give if I do all this for you, I expect for you to have certain characteristics Wow, I am Okay, you you you want a woman that you can move you want a woman that you can make and so this trophy right? That's the vibe that I'm doing, okay You know, you know what you know what I think um When I say certain things and I got a I have a certain delivery. I think people Take it differently than what I meant it.

I'm not trying to mold anybody because you know, I'm not in a sense I feel like I'm a guy having a human experience. That's how I want to carry myself out as well However, I don't think I'm God himself where I can just mold people so what I want because I think it turns out there Okay, can we do a comparison? Have you ever dated anyone your age or above? About something with this the negative about that for you.

Um, I think it was um the Crazy baby that I don't like that. I don't like that at all. Um, I think it was a factor of um She was um, she was like life-skam. I mean like she was like by the way wait, hold up.

Wait, let me finish stop stop please That's just any finish She was like a game and she had like a green eyes So she was like she was wearing glasses and she was like I'm not even explaining my best catheuristic right now And I was like what's that? She was like my eyes and I was just I thought those very um Very shallow to a certain degree because I'm like your eyes don't make who you are and they're actually on the day because you had pretty eyes No doubt you're physically you physically attractive but I didn't actually on the day because of that And the conversation wasn't all the way there is I expected to be like it wasn't um like a real mature conversation So you you was dating an immature older person? I guess you could see it. Okay.

Well, that's not an example. I mean like That was the only person. Um, also I dated somebody my own daughter than me and um She came with a lot of um, I would say daddy issues and a lot of um in a lot of I don't know you just a whole bunch of um I really want to say says but I want to have a better word for it because I don't want black women to be labeled as um Definitely. I think I think she was just um, she had a garden.

So I'm gonna say that she had a garden. So okay So this thing you just mentioned something that is just just that's the doc. I mean when you say she had daddy issues, right? So I don't want my friends before that I did like I did had my own issues He told me it's no such thing.

Mm. They don't understand what that means So I just want to get sharp perspective on what was the daddy issue that you felt like what was she looking for? Oh For me to finish one of that never saw um Because of the fact when your dad's not listening this is saying if you don't complete you will repeat meaning Whatever your dad calls in the absence I have to I basically have to pay for if I choose the date you because of the fact You're gonna if you know him or you know, I'll tell him or if you're not talking about him whether he negatively or positive You're gonna look for those characteristics. Mm-hmm You're going to you're going to roll some of those cataristics and you're going to want to be treated As if that is if you're my girlfriend, but it's if you're my daughter to a certain degree and that's why I kind of get weirded out I got one time I was older one or two four years older than me too.

We were in the middle of having sexual intercourse And she called me daddy. I said to myself right then and even though I'm in the middle of sexual intercourse I said to myself right then I said I bet you she got daddy issues and come up later and lo and behold She had daddy issues. I'm just so glad you explained that because somebody just act like that That existed it does it does but it can also work as somebody that actually have like a overbearing mom Okay So I had some scenarios where there was a guy who had overbearing mom and I did it for a long time So it was mostly like he would bring his mom in some powerhouse, you know, like okay So this is my mom said and my mom said you can't do that and my mom said that you should do that with the children And my mom said and it was my mom would like that pause question Were you being a waterboy out this motherfucker? No, I definitely was not Basically like I did everything wrong and everything that his mom did was right So that was a form of you know, uh, money issues that I dealt with and then That sounds like an editor's complex Yeah, basically that sounds like then I did it a gentleman who mom was just like Someone I never even Could believe that was true.

Like she was the mom that just really had This thing like you grown and I don't have to deal with you ever again in my life if I don't want to And I just felt like he was looking for a mother instead of a girlfriend Hmm he just wants to what so what character was it that he displayed to make you think that? Um jealousy like hard jealousy like if I was talking to anyone other than him that was an issue Um basically like just want to be so attached at all times to be in any area that we went or just basically like Ask me the way he should proceed with life like is it okay if I do this it was like it was just yeah Like should I do this like this and are you upset with me or like he just had like deep mother issue that just never subsided and just just like he had to Clean he was very clingy. He always thought I was going somewhere. I was leaving him or or to some level and It was just it was just overbearing and everything was just like, you know, I just don't want the fear of being left behind for some reason Abandonment issues abandonment issues.

There you go. Wow. Wow So, you know, it just depends on People's backgrounds and you know, I told you that before we need to start digging into people's uh backgrounds Before dating and before you know, like you said the potential versus the performance I mean you can tell off some high potential sometimes about how they were raised If you're not digging into those backgrounds You're damn fulfilled in the beginning when you say background. What do you mean by this?

I'm speaking like who raised them? Who your mom who's your daddy? Who your uncle is? Everybody needs to do you have to do national FBI check at this point Because again, you know, you can have all the potential in the world and just never use it But I don't know that it's that goes back to me saying you need to be friends with people first For you date.

Yeah, okay. I thought it was your name though. I agree with you on that. I think people should be friends.

I think go Um one thing that could get involved with that and I grew up trying out the parents and everything else because my grandmother She gave me the best advice when I was small to get me the best best game in the history of life and here it goes I'm gonna share with people there it goes Fellows if you want to know how one is gonna turn out Why's the mama negative because wait, hold on. Let me finish nine times out of 10 Now there's an exception to every rule, right? But this is the rule. This is what I promise you fellas I promise you I know gains this is got some shit to say but if you why's the mom You get you're gonna get with a daughter don't turn out to be now.

You're gonna spy But okay, so this thing that might be what she turned out to look like Um personality wise. No, okay. No, I don't agree with that. I but I do agree with You can see some certain things but My mom is a really really really Different person than I am.

My mom was the most humble person that you've ever been I told you different from her. So I think Humble, what do you mean? Like my mom is very um passive Okay I'm not passive You know, I'm very aggressive. I'm a very aggressive person and nothing is wrong with my mom being passive But I'm just we take on relationships very much different than one another I'm just my mom is like, I'm like, you know, like, okay, I listen to the situation and we can work it out But I'm not that So you can't really you know, I wouldn't say just a mama just basically everybody because a guy can mimic his mom Not feminine.

I'm speaking of the mom may be the most aggressive in the household. So that person that guy could be just like his mother So it don't have to be him being just like is there is that gonna be the passive one? That's not the most aggressive in that he doesn't wear the pants and I'm so my worst Oh So it just depends on who characteristics he takes after it's not like him being feminine It's just depends on what type of parents he has What Whoop I mean, like, you know, when I talk about like, you know, when I say something people call me show me Anyway, I just feel like In a relationship, maybe I'm the best traditional that the man should be aggressive with so the one he should be one wearing pants in the family because Then at some point just for a man if you if you see a male example of somebody being passive You're gonna be a passive person and I don't think that's gonna produce a productive pain I'm clearly wrong. I just this is my bias.

That's that's definitely something different to think about because I don't see that Okay, I mean I mean being passive doesn't make you wish What do they make? I definitely I don't feel like you're mixing week. I definitely just people you know Sometimes the woman just have a more aggressive nature and that doesn't make him no less than a man I mean, I'm not speaking of her being um Disrespectful in front of the children or or anybody towards the man is just that she may take charge more than the man does So can you come on man that's passive to be your protector and provider? Protector and provider?

Yeah Okay I'm just I just don't feel like you have to be aggressive to be protective. I don't think that that makes him weak I doesn't you know Like, you know, it's a certain role of certain certain families that work. I never I have seen it work before and I'm gonna say it, you know, in my family one of one of my grandfathers was very a very passive person And my grandmother was a more aggressive person, but in the family we looked up to my grandfather It's just the way that you know the household is bringing per se So that's what I'm saying. You can't always take that the man will take the energy of the dad He may look at it like you look at it like I'm not gonna be passive like my dad.

I'm being aggressive like my mom That's why I say you can't Come compare old because it's theirs like this that he's gonna be like this or because her mom's like this is my It just depends on who character you take you can take after the grandfather if you want it to That's why you have to meet just not the mom and dad I mean just me the whole family because you know, it could be way down the line that somebody takes that person's nature on you know Well, I was watching watching the Jackson 5 Did you finish your talk because I want to be rude? Okay, so remind me if I'm being ruled by them But uh, I was watching the Jackson 5 the miniseries, right? And you know, Jackson, he was like real aggressive, right? And so was Michael and that's how Michael got all that money He was aggressive and assertive Meaning that's what you wanted.

I mean that meaning his father gave him a great example or how to be out here in his world because you wait, wait, that's not used great example He was beating those kids I Don't You stated that Michael's a pawn Actions right with other kids They did I mean like Janet German to serve degree even though you know, he just kind of like a baby, but I like the legaly but on german to a certain degree and you know They made it but I don't think that they were all in more aggressive like you I definitely think that some of them the mom's characteristics real passive We're all non-aggressive and just highly big So you just you really just don't know, you know What type of person you're gonna be just you're just And you may just have your own characters you might not check out to anybody that's related to you But it's just generally just spend some time with a person just to really see who they are but I don't want you to Disregard the older women interesting like okay. Do you have any kids? Of course you can Okay, so you have one child, okay So if you're dating a younger girl, guess what comes up with a what's that? Do you want more kids?

Of course you want more kids, okay? Yes, so For me dating younger is a fear Why because I don't want anymore kids and usually younger people don't well not not this thing in each way more Sometimes younger people don't have kids and then that's kind of pressure And it stops for me from dating anyone younger or dating anyone that doesn't have kids I don't want anymore kids So I don't want you to rule out just because of kids. I do have a friend that doesn't want to date anyone with kids Like don't know kids you can't have any kids But this person likes to date younger and that's been an issue Hmm so what I'm saying is okay You have to date for what you want, but you also have to be the person that you are expecting this other person to be Okay, I'll get that I'll get that I can't I think I kind of get that Not only thing with like being older I just saw no earth. I might give it a try.

I might just give it a try You might just give it a try. Are you shaking your head? Yes? Are you not in your head?

Yes? Not not in your head of neutral. I'm not in your line. Let me your line.

Let me your line. Let me your line. Do true No, I'm a bit of a word. I'm a bit of a word Your head.

Yes, that means you're receiving this constructive criticism criticism, but it takes like real potential So accept the feedback And apply it I don't I don't get that you're shaking your head. Yes, but I would just don't try. I might just give it a try. It's just it just had a stance here I mean I might give it a try with all the women.

Are you proactive or reacting when it comes to relationships immediately? Like are you going into the relationship with all these demands or are you Reacting after you once you get into this relationship and then realize that it's just not what you wanted. Hmm I think I lay on my card on the table because I don't want to invite you to be like, oh, well, you didn't you weren't acting like this at the beginning No, I want you to understand this is me. This is gonna be me.

This is my demands. Like can you mean? I'm claiming my requirements? Okay, can you?

Can you make my sense? You know, you ain't got to meet every last one of them. I'm not expecting for you to be my definition of perfect I'm not expecting it. However, I am expecting for you to at least For it to be some give and take for it to be some less approximately so we can have a balance relationship because I don't want to explore the relationship as well Because I'm being ten toes in ten toes down.

So I'm going to explore it as well. So yeah, well, would you be offended if everyone can't say what the same type of demands and that you know, and you don't have all the The quality just yet. That is that is her standards and that's okay. If she feels like I can't meet them That is okay.

That's perfectly fine with me. But are you willing to at least look at the list and change something? Look at the list and change some things. I'll probably May like if it's something that I decided to be already major is Of my performance.

There may be something for me to be motivated to But listen, you are actually heard of the same thing. You know it right because you're just dating that she doesn't have to have all the policies on the list But she can't go towards the policies on the list. So that's the same as she actually but she took a long time to say yes or no That's it. That's it.

I'm not living up to the standards there. That's okay with me. I'm cool with that But if it's something that she really want, wouldn't you be okay with working on it? Yeah, if it's something I really want it What would it is?

This is a thing though. This is a thing those things what would cause me to want to work for it? That is The woman Okay, the woman herself Is that we should try that is the goal, right? Right?

So the woman I feel like you think that you don't have a list Mmm. I do I do No, I'm saying I'm saying do you feel like that You're that someone can give you a list or do you think that you check all about? Of course? I don't check all about it I'm pretty sure for some of it.

I'm pretty sure don't check all about it You know like certainly I just can't do like you know Or you won't do certain things like I just can't do like physical characters like listen, I'll find change There's no way I'm about to really grow and be successful or something like that. You know what I'm saying? Like she like that. I just I'm doing like I'm doing like I'm doing a video, right?

No, I'm not speaking of stuff like that. Okay, I'm speaking of I'm not sure if we have this camera so like let me just be clear about that but if she was to say You know, I would like for you to maybe be just a little more submissive than aggressive in some situation Would you be able to accept that? Okay, I'm just in worse situations I'm afraid of the crime that from me because I mean it could be anything. It's just you know She may be the aggressor when it comes to the business aspect of your relationship And she wants you to like step back a little When it comes to that could you be a little submissive when it comes to something like that or do you have to be the aggressor?

I have to like that. If we got to aggressive, then I think that's wonderful. So No somebody has to say I don't know about that one I think that I think that your list is so concrete Please let me know Will you get that list checked out? I'm gonna be the first one that you're wedding Will you say character?

What do you mean by that? Me is just no way to dig into it and stretch it out once it's it's cement at this point I don't think so. I don't think so. It's not like that.

Certainly not just like like yeah, I'm not it's I'm not it's um How can I put this? I'm not it's um as you put it cement for concrete as you think I am You know, they're still wrong for you to you know draw and do whatever And even paint even paint on it. I mean just like I'm very um Open to new stuff sometimes depending on who it is what it is and um Just just overall it is worth it I don't like I say it. I'm gonna try to date know the women.

I'm gonna get out of trial It sounds like it's just such a bad thing I just I don't go here to try because I'll be an open right now I just I just personally thank you like I continue to say that I could be wrong. I just think that you are very You want to be very dominant when it comes to the relationship And I think that it's gonna be very hard for you to Find someone of your aid that's going to be some visit to the thing that you're requesting My angel younger. No, I think you're gonna get a younger person with no problem I just I do think that it would be harder for you to date older You're very passionate about what you feel. I don't think you have any wiggle room For any type of You know you say this multiple times you are basically this after you're basically still back in 1970 Like we don't push you up Where women are becoming more aggressive in life You have to you have to accept these bosses.

There's coming up And okay, we're Walking on side of this woman instead of trying to walk in front of us. Oh, no, I mean You said I'm gonna have to become more and walk it like you're walking in front of me. No, I said walking on side I've never said walking in front of side On side of you That's how I'm better. Yeah, I mean you think this this is nothing This is this is exactly my thing certain things you don't know About like um, just you know, I'm very effort with what they call effort centric But I'm basically like I love African culture.

I studied a lot. You know what I'm saying? And one thing I've learned is that even when we open our doors for women Then we think we're being on quote unquote gentlemen and stuff like that. That's like a European thing That's like a wrong thing because because of the fact they wouldn't let their women go first Just in case their enemies saw them And the women would get killed instead of them so they wouldn't sacrifice their women me on other hand what I do is For example, I walk in front of my woman make sure there's no danger and then I wasn't going to do it for The danger Okay Yeah, especially if she's a real woman because you will never have to ever ever have to look behind you Ever Like you just said it.

I would actually I hate a lot. I didn't do it to find it Don't it's something it could be defined in many ways, but I feel like this okay A real woman is going to be someone who's very honest with you about your flaws and all And she will be able to accept the same criticism from you A woman who is deep into her self so where she is very comfortable with who she is A person that is definitely like the definition of a boss But does not have a problem being submissive to a man that is genuinely In care of her heart That woman would never ever in her life allow anything to come in between you in her Or anything that has to do with anything that goes with her family That's a real woman That's gonna have your back to absolutely anything You could be dead wrong And I'll have your back right or wrong, but when we get inside I'm telling you you're wrong But the world would never know that she was wrong Wow, I like that That's like that. So I just think that if you just give it a change You'll find the perfect woman My definition perfect right because you know There's a different difference the perfect Do you believe in the 80-20 rule? Kind of Kind of kind of what what what's making that?

Because I don't really get that I don't know like I hear a different thing about it I don't really know a clear definition on 80-20 rule Okay, I think most of it is like on somebody here 80% what you got what you want in a But they're like like 20% right right? Right. Yeah, cool. Are you able to accept that?

Yeah, I mean like I'm not I don't want to be better These children I don't want to be baby daddy drama. I don't want this. I don't want that Take this out baby daddy drama. This should be a requirement because You got giga baby mama drama for me But how she knows that?

She gets into the relationship Yeah You got children That's what it just comes in it. I think we're talking about communication right now. Oh, you're thinking that I'm on a certain way I think we're too thinking is I'm saying oh she got kids that she was got baby daddy drama. So I want that shit, right?

Right. No, no, we don't go like that I mean I'm having a conversation when I'm in a mess. I'm having a conversation and we go on a date or something that that makes her and then she's talking about that type of You know This That's a mother shit The baby daddy drama that means you just got drama period right yeah, you have a relationship from not baby daddy drama you just have From yeah, I definitely don't want you to be with anybody like that. I think you need an African woman But Well, her family accept you is something different But I believe that you African you mean like one just from Africa.

Yes, no like straight from Africa Why not a black American woman? We different We different while you're different like you said you don't want to say sass but African American women or Our culture is not the same as African women. They're much more submissive. They're much more um I don't even want to use that word, but They have a lot of cultural values that we don't possess Because I want to say like we've seen so many broken homes and broken families And really in an African culture you won't see a lot of that You won't see a lot of that You will see a lot of intact homes And I hate to say it like that, but our culture has been damaged by men and women when it comes to a family And uh, they just hold a different value that I wish will still like that here, but it's just not like that anymore Hmm Interesting So question so question I have a question.

Yeah, this so let's just say the I found you a black American woman right There Has those traditional values that come from two current home We don't mean it's one to work out in your team. I feel like she can have she can have value if you can accept A lot of things and yes I just want you to knock their lips down just a little bit because I just feel like it's like 100 You don't don't I didn't even care about this Imagine You know But i'm not going to give you something that i'm not willing to give to Okay, i'm very fair. I'm very sure i'm not willing to give you something that i'm not willing to give to like if um I used to hey, you know what like if i'm like because you know my thing is it's my big thing is like I have a problem. I was I have a problem with running pain for dates with me.

Oh, why? I'll get them It's just like it's just in problem. I think I think if a man like if you got one a date and You would have won me then you should pay for the date Most of the time. Oh, yeah, that was a problem with that.

You have a problem with that. I have a problem with the pair of the dates I mean, I'm sure a lot of women would love that about you Okay, but I don't think there's nothing absolutely nothing wrong with one pay for the Okay, and when I say that it's because it's so it's not about You know Who pays for the date, but it's just like if i'm inviting you somewhere and I want you to be in my company Then i'm okay with pain And if you're inviting me you want me and your company is okay for you to pay now. I do feel like the man It should pay more than the women does if we're you know courting but if I genuinely just say listen There's a movie coming out. I really would like to see it.

Would you want to go? I feel like it's okay for me to pay Another problem if you really like that person Right It's that I don't see anything absolutely nothing's wrong with that Do you feel like or you a person that feels like once you and Your um girlfriend or hopefully wife moves in together that you are you are to pay all the bills in the house I feel like once again i'm obligated to be current of the fight. There's all the fake there That's all this fake right here. Do you want to do you want to do you want to want me?

Or do you want to want me? So it makes it makes you a roommate if you pay half of the bills. Yeah, kind of it does right so But however However, like I said i'm not gonna give you something i'm not expecting a return right? So return Can I get some of those nurtial categories?

Can I get a meal? Okay, so do you want to stay home? Wife Oh, well i'm with a certain financial pretzel. I would like that.

I think it's um you'll be very conducive to a lot of one Okay. Oh wow. Okay. So if you want to stay home Wife What if she doesn't want to stay home?

Would that be a no? No, it's not no because you know, you know, I think um, I think it's you know, somebody told me this and i'm going to repeat what they said It might be um, it might rub some people wrong way by mistake anyway. He told me it's he said he said He said To get you to this financial plan to the ones the man, you know saying becomes Financial stable when I say financial stable talking about like a millionaire or a billionaire because we're on the conversation Why just black billionaires, but they don't tend to have black wives or there was black millionaires, but they don't tend to have black wives And he was like he said once you reach that platform. Once you get there Then black women have a problem with just sitting down and chill like they have a problem with just sitting down and saying Hey, you know what you go here.

You take care of all their business stuff And I would say at home and I'm gonna take care of all this home shit So when you get home from a long day or work or you know, man in a company Then you have a nurture environment. He said black women are built for the struggle, but they're not built for the big times And I was like wow I was like wow. Yes They're not built for the good times. Wow Do you know how many millionaires and billionaires married these black women and Become all get all this money and this person's been with them from day one And they do all these negative heartbreaking things that these black women In public and then leave them with nothing Yes, that's that's what we're talking about because I was wondering why do they have I want to say nothing though.

I think they gave something Well, I mean, I mean, I guess what I'm asking though. I think financially They're gonna be cool. I mean it's not sometimes not financially to even much keep you at the same level that you were Own when you help this person get there. It's just isn't enough.

It may be just sufficient enough to be living the way you were before This is fishing up to maintain your lifestyle because when you get married and you're Conducent or you're gonna do some certain lifestyle most of time the dirty rule and say Well, you had to pay this much out of morning so she can make that issue But you know how many times women have family love and signed those pre-nups because they thought they was gonna be together forever A lot. Yes, it happens a lot. So I don't think that they're not built for the good times They are built to think about the woody-ups because we've been left down a lot So I don't think it's that I definitely think it's we have been hurt so many times and so hurt so many times that we were never gonna let ourselves fall into that again So I don't want to I don't like that statement So do you think that's why at least in all these multi-millionaires date other races Oh, that's a multiple reason why they do that one of them is that they're totally like what is opposing That's the one that is supposed to be dating For one understanding that the book is opposing for like athletes when they get drafted and they say this is the type of woman that you should be dating If you want to be successful at the basketball player or football players, that's one thing Another thing is this like Malcolm X said in the 70s some black men don't feel like they're successful until they give it a white woman They don't feel like they made it until they give it a white woman. Wow another thing is What my homie said is certain certain things is once you get to a certain level, right?

and Once you get to a certain level And your money is correct. Your money is good. You don't really have to worry no more I think it is very hard for black women to sit down and say hey, you know what? I'm just gonna say here and create this nurture and environment because not because of something that's in Nathan black women I feel like every black woman has their own Catheristan becomes a missile to the right person however They don't have Trust that you were talking about that this person's going to right bow the person's gonna Gotta create the business bring a bill is a certain financial plan told like names and being the dollars and be faithful at the end of the day so why can't we As well as black men why can't we the person woman be down for them and then they make all these most time million dollars And she didn't help you basically from the ground why we can't find us her dreams Look at that.

But it's not happening You know what she thought following her dreams when he leave her and she get that little bit of stipend money And she have to use that to find answer That's what everybody that little stipend What I gotta say though, I gotta say something like we look at certain things like you look at certain people like we talk about back about athletes for example the one that didn't help them get there For the most part who helped them get there They have some their physical ability. Okay. I'm not speaking of just a game. Okay.

I'm talking about who was there mentally emotionally All of that they were they were I mean, I'd be like as far as like being out mentally like you take my boy and James Really me was like to be like, hey, baby. I need you about that. He'll be something tonight I need you got that you know, I'll say just really give it to go to state On the TV I dated an athlete. Have you ever been around an athlete that has lost the game?

No, that is the worst not a professional athlete. That is the worst moment Like because when that person gets to you You're dealing with a very emotional person and it trickles through your household You have to be a very strong person to deal with that type of situation There's a lot of emotions that go home with those players. It's a lot of abuse that goes home with those players Sometimes you just do not know the things that go on behind the scene And that's why I say it's just not every it's not all the glory I should see her clapping up with her We've it's all bad gone is when she come when he come home She's dealing with a whole different type of person sometimes So I just don't like that people just see the outsider She she was in that with some all kinds of emotions behind the game when I play as her That's a whole different type of person that you're dealing with so because once they heard they can't play That's emotional burden on the household So I just don't want people to look at the good stuff when they make any small time million dollars What about all the emotional abuse that you take at home or the emotional situations that this person brings home with them? I just want everybody to just date who you love and Just think that just sit down and think that Anything in the slick of a minute everything to change and when I say that is stop looking for all these Hundred percent when it comes to somebody and think about the stuff that you bring to the table also and at a certain age You should know what you want and you know what you bring to the table and it's okay to expect somebody to have some of those things To the table will be okay with somebody to get to that point Wonderfully wonderfully say Now snakes However So getting together I am truly hoping before the fourth of July to have the first one out I'm working on some things.

I have a great team motivating me right now. So if I don't get it together I'm gonna be in trouble releasing Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, I totally agree with you So what's gonna be the name of it again? Talking shit, what's next? Coming soon now I want to turn on like businesses and other things too, but I want this is gonna be in a three-point series I want to ask you to come back now for one of the relationships next time we'll be talking about business And I forget the other one but we're gonna be talking about that too.

Of course and all these were suggested by snakes By the way you guys I want a big I want really big up right now, but you know me I like to leave some positive so could you please me this with some positive snakes? Something positive for today. Always listen to your intuition Be okay with loving someone different but always be yourself at all times So I'm gonna go with my theme of the week which is take no else from anybody As and receive from the right people, you know and also I want to point this out, you know Your boy a bit of getting some traction in the radio and be on Sunday morning general very soon Yes, you guys posted on that also be on TV very soon Yes, not only that I heard back home and executive from the late show so I'm actually But